"To all those who have sent me their feedback and testimonials, please know that I am very grateful.  Your encouragement means a lot to me"  Yvette

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This is what subscribers are saying about the free email tips and the Get Myself Organized newsletter...

"Hello Yvette,

I so enjoy your newsletters.  This one really hit home in a lot of ways.  Again, I enjoy your newsletters so much.  Glad I found you."

P Brown, Vancouver, WA, USA

"Thank you for your newsletters. They always seem to arrive just as I am about to have a clutter catastrophe. Your newsletters leave me calm and yet charged - charged to attack the next bout of clutter. Keep the newsletters coming. (Love to hear that they are written by a mom with everyday issues and not some 21 year old neat freak from an office)."

Christina, Long Island, New York, USA

“Yvette,

Just read your latest newsletter - thanks for the inspiration.  Another hint that someone else passed on to me was to keep a large gift bag hanging in each child's wardrobe. As you go to put an item of clothing on them and discover that it's too small, fold it up then and there and place it in the gift bag.  When the bag is full, pass it on to a friend with younger kids / charity shop whatever.  This way you are doing the decluttering on a continual basis and your kid's wardrobe doesn't get cluttered up with items that they can no longer wear.

I wish I'd thought of this little gem years ago. So many times I've put a t-shirt on one of my kids, thought "that's way too small", taken it off and put it back on the shelf ?!?!?!?!  How silly is that - yet I've done it over and over again. NO MORE !

Cheers and Thanks Again,”

Julia Knock, Sunshine Coast Hinterland, Queensland

"Hi Yvette:

So nice to hear from you, and really enjoyed this newsletter even though I don' t have any young children.

My step-daughter has a son in the middle of 4 girls, and the twins are also the youngest, they now range from 14 to 21, and there is a dog. The only difference is they don't have your organization skills, and live a distance away ( 800 km).

I am in some major rearranging in my den/office, and can relate to the Billy bookcases at Ikea. I am working on one room at a time, though I have created a list for the whole job. I had a lady who does re-designing/home staging in for a free consultation last Friday, and she pointed out all kinds of things.

It made it simple for me to focus on what I need to do in order to be more organized, and have my home looking more like a new (3 years old) show home and more comfortable for living in.

I am amazed at how quickly I came up with a plan as to what needs to be done. I am also still concentrating on ridding the excess papers. I went through half of the old household receipts in 3 hours, and wrote all the necessary info onto a dozen sheets of paper which go into a household record binder. When I have more time I will enter it into computer and collate the info, print it and file it again.

I have completed my inventory of about one quarter of my home so far, it is a tedious task. Going through the receipts is a part of it, as I am doing a whole home job which is long overdue.

I guess I am getting better at this, and yes, it is definitely freeing, and feels good.

Please feel free to share my progress with your other clientele. I am happy with your newsletters, and support, without which, I could not have done all that I have.

The only part I hate, is returning items that do not work as well as I visualized. I bought a new curtain rod, and it was in 3 pieces, and did not fit in the space I needed. It said 48"-144", and I needed 84", so it goes back today. I have to pick up a cube storage unit, that is "45"x45" with 9 cubes, so I can display things I need in my den. This is from Home Depot. It is cheaper than Ikea, though they no longer carry the 30"x60" (H) units that I wanted for the living room, either side of the fireplace for cube display (I procrastinated on that one, and they are now discontinued).

My other option is 2 - 72"H x28" w bookcases, all of the above in white. I will do the cube in my den first, then move the other 48" bookcase, and 16" storage unit to my basement where I can use it there, and have plenty of room and use for them.

I am more enthused about this process, now that I am seeing progress, and I really appreciate your patience and support.

Loretta David, Chilliwack, BC, Canada

"Hello Yvette,

What a wonderful idea of yours to email these suggestions on a daily basis, as I feel so much better already - on the ball with lots more energy!

Your advice is sound (esp suggesting not to do too much in one sitting!) - and I must say I have felt a lovely sense of achievement finishing chores as I get into healthy routines.

Thank you for these fabulous tips!

With very best wishes,"

Maggie from London, England

"Thank you again for this fortnight newsletter.  I am beginning to see improvement at my desk following your last newsletter.  I am not stupid but it seems so hard to get organised.  Reading your letter seems to guide me on the right path.

Thanks again for sharing the knowledge.

Regards from"

Noon Dalton, Woonona, NSW, Australia

"Hi Yvette,

Just want to thank you for your articles.  Still reading through them.  Have read Boxed Time?   Can't remember the title and Self Discipline, Motivation, really enjoying them.  Thanks so much. 

Lots more to read and looking forward to it."

Lu, Johannesburg, South Africa

"Thank you - your tips are very helpful! and give me great incentive!"

KJ Henry, Methuen, Massachusetts, USA

"Your newsletters are very helpful.  They keep me focussed on how and what I need to do to get my house (and life) in order.

Thank you :-)"

Kathy, USA

"Hi Yvette,

Thanks so much for the one week guide to being organized. I guess i'm not that bad but still need a lot of help getting my things organized and pushing myself to not to let it slide and rebel about not having someone to do it for me anymore. I'm from the Philippines where one can be so pampered with having the luxury of household help without causing so much dent on the budget (you can easily have full time maids, nannies and even a driver and you don't have to be very affluent to be able to do this in the Philippines.) But we recently moved to Ireland and I need more help in organizing my household with no household help and take care of my children full time (age 1 and 3), so different from working as a doctor full time in the Philippines. I do most of the things in your advise, but I am one of those people guilty of the |"all or none excuse" that some things are left undone and put off. I just finished reading the 2 weeks of daily tips. Just give me few days to put things in order and implement the things you have advised so well and i will definitely buy your e-book.

Again, thanks so much and more power and keep on writing."

Jade, Leixlip, County Kildare, Ireland

"Hi Yvette,

Another great tip!  You are just amazingly good at this stuff - and have helped me no end.

Thank you VERY much - and continued success to you, well deserved."

Ann-Marie Caffrey, Dublin, Ireland.

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"Hi Yvette,

Thanks for your newsletter.  They have been very useful.  Thanks again for all your great advice."

Sharon Bass, Simi Valley

"Yvette,

You are to be congratulated for being able to capture and write all these frugal Organizational Tips in a concise manner.

We are almost 80 years old ah have been practicing all your tips for many years while nurturing our Children.  We just couldn't express our thoughts on paper as well as you have done.

This is certainly great for young families trying to keep pace with all the obstacles facing them.

We too, like lists, especially "To DO" Lists.  It does tend to keep one somewhat organized, even though we re not able to accomplish them all in the time allotted as we are slowing down.  when we do accomplish two or three items, it certainly makes us feel productive.

With just two of us, we still stock up when there are Sales, we always
buy in bulk, buy three or four Roasts and Bake all at same time,
Wrap them in Aluminum Foil, Label & Date and place in plastic bags
ready for Freezer. This not only Saves money on goods, but also
Gas or Electric used for Baking.

Thank you for the great, much needed Service you are performing."

Rhea Bell, Las Vegas, Nevada, USA

"Great tips! Your tips are really great and I learn something each time I read
them.  They are truly invaluable.  I look forward to more organizing tips from you!  Thanks so much."

Kathy, Hartselle Alabama USA

"Dear Yvette,

I just want to say thank you so much for your articles.  I do not usually pay much heed to messages and articles sent to me online but your writing is interesting and inspiring without being didactic or pedantic.  It makes sense.  I like the way you relate order to the inner world as well as the outer.  As an intuitive I can be extremely disordered and unable to categorise so thank you for the help.

With warm wishes,"

S Turner, Edinburgh, Scotland

"Dear Yvette,

Thank you for all your helpful hints over the last 12 months or so.  I have made a lot of changes in my life and the way I do things.  I am a mother of three aged between 8 - 14 years.  Most people who know me would have described our home as chaos at the least.  I used to be so disorganized, every time I went anywhere I would forget things.  But bit by bit things are getting better.  I am now even secretary of the local state school P & C. Recently I have organized a theatrical dinner show for 100 people.  My house is not so bad any more.  I am not embarrassed when unexpected guests drop in as the house is "in better shape" (as my very organized mum likes to say!)  But the biggest achievement so far was packing the whole family for a camping road trip from Sunshine Coast to Adelaide via Brisbane, Sydney, Canberra and Melbourne.  It took a few months of planning but for 3 weeks any time any one asked where something was I actually knew where it was.  And what's more when we got home I hadn't left anything behind.  Even my sister was impressed with how much I have changed.

So thank you again for your wonderful newsletters.  I know the hard work was mine but without your encouragement and wonderful ideas it would have been so much harder."

Cherrill, Qld, Australia

"Hi

I am pleased with all the tips you have sent me and it helps.  I love your website and tips!   Thanks a lot."

Angelique, Cape Town, South Africa

"Thank you so much.  I really do think now that I am not alone with the things that weigh us down from time to time.

Thank you, a big hug x"

Liz Thorpe, Lincolnshire, England

"Dear Yvette,

In deep gratitude for your sharing of experience, thank you!

With warm regards,"

Lou, Magaliesberg, South Africa

"Many thanks for the inspirational news letters."

'Chelle, Aldershot, Hampshire, England

"Thank you!  Just what I needed to get back on track again!"

Dorette, Pretoria, South Africa

"Hi Yvette,

Thanks for the useful newsletter.  It provided a constructive way of starting the process of de-cluttering my house - especially now that my children have moved out.  I am one of those who have a problem with little things that have sentimental value. I tend to have a bowl in each room full of little things that I just cannot throw away! Things that remind me of a family event, little objects I keep because they need to be fixed and some things my children have collected and I don't throw them away because they do not belong to me and so I don't make decisions about them. You are so right - the difficult part is about making decisions. And how these little things can accumulate and hold you back!
Thanks. I look forward to your next news letter."

Jenny, Cape Town, South Africa

"Dear Yvette,

Thanks for your e-mails.  I was really going mad lately; but after I read you emails you have shown me a light.  I am still trying so hard to get organized with everything.  I am a mother of 3, aged 13, 12 and 9 with a full time, very demanding job.  Kids home work also do demanding.  Sometimes I felt like giving up everything.  Last few years I have been travelling around the world for work.  That's put me in situation with everything has gone mad.  Kids, house and appointments etc.  My husband also working very hard and most of the time he is not around to deal with house things.  I am trying to do everything like a superwoman, but now I realize I am going mad.  I am feeling very low and snappy at my husband and kids.  Your help really appreciated. Regards,"

Sandy, London, UK

"Dear Yvette:  Thank you for your newsletters - they are so 'spot on' for me lately.....decluttering - is so much easier said than done, but I am currently trying to do that with my son's outgrown toys....for me the worst part is distraction but I am going to persevere!!!!!
 
I have just read your latest issue and oh, my goodness - how true it is for me.
 
Thank you for helping me realize that I am truly not the only one with these (seemingly huge) issues - I intend to slow down on trying to do it all at once - and keep reading this issue to remind myself....
 
Thank you, you are such an inspiration.

Best regards,"

Carol, Paradise, Newfoundland, Canada

"I am a born declutterer. I love your pearls of common sense.
I came from a home where my dear mum's obsessive/compulsive behaviour in keeping every bit of paper and plastic spoon for 60yrs drove us to breaking point.
It drove me to want to do the opposite and not treasure anything for too long
After 5 kids and a husband addicted to paper trails where ever he went, I can say that being objective about what surrounds  you does have an impact well beyond just "the stuff."

A hint to most people is don't give things to clutterers, have beautiful times  together instead. If someone is tending to keep it all  and cannot part with things/stuff then again do not give stuff, give a cherished moment enjoying an activity together."

Yvonne, Sydney, Australia

"Hi,

Just wanted to say thank you for your newsletter, I have been off my work for a number of weeks as everything has been mounting up, I work full time plus regular overtime at my job, I started a weekend and evening business of my own, I am studying for banking exams, and trying to keep the house looking perfect, so finally I snapped!!

I have found it so helpful reading your newsletters, I know that I am far from alone, why we seem to make ourselves martyrs and load ourselves with as much as we can is beyond me!

It has been a big help to read your newsletters and to look at doing things differently, you're doing a great job!!  Thank you,"

Ruth, UK

"Yvette,

Thanks for the update........I could not believe Meg, Newcastle, Australia, as it seemed like I was talking........I did the same thing in the last 12 months.  Thirty year old plastics, spare crockery I thought I could keep (just in case!).  The dog tags, the blankets, sheets, books, etc all needed (I thought) but not missed at all.  We also had my Mum and Mother-in-law move to units, a couple of years ago, so there was the much loved items given to me but as time went by, I found that they too must go.  We are in the process of now placing Mum into a single retirement unit so here we go again.

Your contact is a great comfort and to know there are lots of us out there and we are all working to the same goal, is appreciated.

Best regards,"

Pat, Padstow, NSW, Australia

"I love your website and information!  Thank you!"

Mary, Higganum, USA

"Yvette,

I love your e-mail articles!  This clutter thing I'm trying soooo hard to get a hold of!  I'm a mom of 7 (ages 2 to 12), a pastor's wife, a children's church leader, a church worship team leader, a piano student, a professional cake decorator student, I teach classes once a week on the side and I decorate cakes for extra money (I have a wedding cake to feed 500 in May)!  In addition to all that I still have to wash 100 loads of clothes a month and fix dinner for 9 on a regular basis!  So, clutter drives me nuts but happens so quick with such a big family!  I am happy to say that right now my living room is CLEAN- the only clutter is the over flowing tub full of kids toys!  I even steam cleaned yesterday!!  Anyway, just wanted to share with you that as busy as our lives are de-cluttering is possible.  I have a label maker that comes in really handy!  I still have some organizing to do and these newsletters are encouraging!  I'll be looking for one on KIDS ROOMS! ;>)  Thanks for the emails and I'll check out your blog!!  Keep up the great work!"

Lisa, Hubbard, TX, USA

"Hi Yvette

Thanks for writing these letters.  It helps to keep me motivated to carry on with organization, especially when it does feel as if the clutter is overwhelming.

Have a great weekend."

Karen Coetser, Pretoria, South Africa

"I can't wait for next weeks article on 'feeling overwhelmed" right now if I died that would go on my headstone!  Thanks for all your great updates they are brilliant and I love receiving them.

Regards,"

Sheila, Kent, England

"Hi Yvette,

I just wanted to email you and let you know I am loving your tips on getting organised.

Thanks again for the great tips on getting myself organised.  I look forward to more newsletters.

Regards,"

Julia, Penrith, Australia

"How encouraging!  A method to get decluttered while actually making a habit of it!!!!  Thanks!!!

My biggest problem in getting motivated is "feeling overwhelmed" by the amount of work I need to do.  Your method provides hope.

Jan, Portland, OR, USA

"Yvette - Thank you sooo much for your latest e-mail re: De-cluttering.  We need to sell the house.  I look around and wonder how I was going to do it.  I realize I need to take one room at a time, like you said, and you made a lot of good points.  As hard as this transition will be, I appreciate your advice and keep up the good work!!!!"

Ellen, Birdsboro, USA

"Dear Yvette,

I must tell you that the 2nd last paragraph below in your newsletter...

(Sometimes the messiest people are very sensitive to disorder, and simple things like having a workspace clear of clutter and papers removes stress and distraction.  If the sight of your desk is freaking you out, just spend 5 minutes, using a timer if necessary, putting things away in labelled folders.  I promise it will make you feel better).

...was read sooner than the rest of the letter because
-it is SO painful to read the contents - you see, opening a file and punching the holes, or stapling something, and then putting it in the file and closing the file and putting it away....it just drives me to the nearest window for fresh air!
-and that paragraph caught my attention since it is true, I am very much more agreeable as a person when I am surrounded by soft and kind order, meaning not harsh and cold order. But clutter makes me edgy and anxious.

If you could see my desk here at home now, you would call 911.

Anyway, I started in a corner of the room 2 nights ago, and I plan to finish by Wed night ( 2 days from now.) Then I would have restored order.

Its a very scary thing this filing issue, for me. Thankyou for your letter, I honestly scanned the contents and I know what to do before you said it, and I am more than capable, but I still get freaked out just thinking about that practical part of putting paper into the file, it just takes too long and is too much of a scientific, detailed, slow motion act for me! And to think I used to love creating order and creating files to file things in....that was 10 years ago and before my first child. What happened since then?

Regards,

Karien Jordaan, Pretoria, South Africa

"Hi! Yvette,

Thank you so much...for this...it's so timely on my present moods and situations...I was hit, by that word, perfectionism...you are so right...I always feel to accomplish everything perfect...or else I end up not doing it at all...and you're right...doing it regularly would be better even if it is not perfect...

please keep sending emails,

your loving friend from Canada"

Regina Jarlego

"WOW!!  There is just no other words one can use to describe both the blog site and your newsletters.  Sooooo much to read!!

Take care, Yvette,"

Elmo, Canada

"Dear Yvette, What a joy to receive your e-mail!  It's comforting to know that we can't accomplish everything every day.  We can choose each day's goals, and limit the time we spend stressing over them.  Actually, the doing of the job is easier than stressing over it.  I love having my home clean, but the clutter still has me struggling.  I'm a professional housekeeper, so the weekends are time to clean my own home.  Keep up the good work.  We all need encouragement. 

Lots and lots of love and hugs, and thanks,"

Suzie, Meridianville, USA
 

"Hi Yvette

How do you always know what I need to read before I do?  I eagerly look at your emails to see what the topic is and nearly every time I say to myself that is amazing.  It is just what I needed to read about right now.  So well done and I will eagerly check out your blog.

Thanks again."
 

Nicole, Perth, Australia

"Hi
 
I would like to say - a BIG THANKS for giving me a great insight of an 'organised' person! I realise how important it is to review my errands lists daily! It makes my life a lot EASIER!!! I wish I could have read your book and e-mail 8 years ago!!! I have been struggling with my personal paperwork as well as cases with 9 different solicitors! My life is a lot better now and still keep updated with my solicitor!
 
Many many many thanks! How can I thank you enough?!
 
Warm Regards"
 
Kibra, Ethiopia
 
Freelance TV Presenter (BBC)!
&
British Sign Language User (Deaf)
 

"Thanks Yvette
These have been really great tips and are already starting to make a
difference. I look forward to your newsletter. I will be
recommending your site to some of my client group.
Warm regards"

Sue Ellerman
Outreach Worker & Counselor

Canberra, Australia

"Hi Yvette,

Many thanks for your great tips very practical and helpful, and simple to do not to complicated, which would put me off immediately, especially to me a collector of everything.

So thanks again I will pass your site onto friends and family.

Regards,"

Sylvia Weinberg, Melbourne, Australia

"Hi,
I love all the information you send me, I've gotten a lot out of it."

Carol Davis, Easley, SC

"Hi Yvette,

Just to say thank you so much for the emails I receive from you. They are extremely helpful and beneficial to me!

Once again, thank you very much for your extremely useful tips etc. I always look forward to receiving your emails.

Best wishes,"

Mandy Theron, Plumstead, Cape Town, South Africa

"Hi Yvette,

Thanks so much for the inspiration.  I have been so rewarded with your emails- I await them with eager anticipation.  I really mean it, you have been an amazing inspiration to me.  I have needed you.  Continue to bless the girlfriends of the world, with your wonderful wisdom.  Look forward to hearing more from you."

Wendy, Adelaide, Australia

"Hi Yvette i have been getting your emails for a while now and they have been great, the reason i originally signed up was because we have a large family and things just get on top of you especially when you keep "stuff" for years - even if you dont need it  - since signing up i had a big clean out, put things where they belong, moved house and culled along the way and it has been great.  on the 7th december we had a baby boy - caleb he is our 8th child and i had to have surgery so having the house organized it was great and easy for everyone else to keep on top of.
so thank you for your emails and the ebooks if not for them i would be buried under a pile of junk that i couldnt get on top of with out help and ideas.
sincerely"

Janine Daly, Brisbane, Queensland, Australia

"Dear Yvette,

I wanted to thank you for the thought on wellness as a factor in the
business of motivation and accomplishing things in front of us.
This past year I purchased your e book and soon there after was
diagnosed with lung cancer.  Well between surgery and chemo therapy I have done only baby steps in clearing out 20 years of family clutter after the family has left the nest.

Any way I am almost done with the chemo and was feeling very positive
about this new year ahead as the clearing out of old ways and junk..
However this first week I have felt like my get up and go has got up
and went.. and your news letter reminds me that my doctor said my
white blood count was coming back up but we would watch the red
because it was still down. I go back soon for re-check and possible
shot to correct the problem. So here I was ready to self flog for not
getting with the organizing campaign and didn't even give my health
situation a thought.

So thanks for the reminder."

Julia in Santa Cruz Ca.

"I have read some of your articles and they make sense and have
given me insight into why I have the problem that I have with papers
and "stuff".  Thank you for putting your knowledge down on paper and helping the rest of us! Looking forward to reading your book."

Vivian, NJ, USA

"Your developing habits newsletter is very well done.  Something you had written a while back got me exercising more regularly, but still not enough to make differences such as weight loss.  However this went right to it and told me how to make it a habit.  Instead of thinking in my mind, “I need to exercise regularly so I can lose weight, and minimize my risks of getting certain diseases”, or “ I ate sooo much and I have to exercise because I’m getting so huge”. … Now I’ll say “ I feel great after I exercise”.  “I exercise so I have more energy, I exercise because I care about my health and exercise makes me feel good.

Great newsletter, thanks for all you do."

Jane Alexander, Fargo, North Dakota, USA

"Thank you very much Yvette.  This newsletter came at the right time, when I was about to do fall in the mood of the festive season by engaging myself into unnecessary expenses.

After reading this, I strongly believe that, the strategy proposed would
help facing the days after the festive season has gone.

Regards,
Best wishes for the festive season in anticipation.
Liliane, Midrand, South Africa

"Hi Yvette,

I'm not having a problem this holiday season but have in the past.  managed to get somewhat organized & start planning [in August] most years.  But I did read your newsletter & that is one of the most practical articles I’ve seen in years . . . ever!  I can’t imagine that that article won’t help anyone that reads it [that takes it even somewhat seriously].  Thanks for doing such a great job & helping others.  Keep up the good work."

Debby Rice, Fountain Valley, CA, USA

"I just love the fact that you are so realistic and so balanced and you really make everyone think about what they are doing about everyday things in their lives, that's what is needed - doing a great job and I love getting the newsletters every month - keep it up you are right on target!!!!"

Anne Russo, Australia

"A note to thank you for the excellent article "DEVELOPING AND ESTABLISHING HABITS."  I appreciate it and hope t make it a part of my routine.  Particularly with the Christmas season coming up when I plan to be the hostess for our family Christmas celebration.  I will be watching for any more tidbits you wish to share so the time before and during our dinner will be a truly joyful time.

Sincerely,"

Donna, Goshen, IN, USA

"Hello,

I just read your newsletter and wanted to give you feedback that it's very helpful to get in terms of reinforcing what's in your book.  I just had some health issues recently which threw me out of any kind of schedule and reading your newsletter brought me back to looking at what I need to focus on now in order to be the person I desire.

Thanks!"

L Johnston Filios, Iowa City, IA, United States

"Dear Yvette,

Thanks for sending me your tips still.  I love them...you're spot on!"

Trudie, Bucks, England

"thank you...for your wisdom..I am deep in 18 large rooms of treasures/trash...ooh do I collect stuff....I am trying so to follow your leads n clear out the things I no longer need....you are a wonderful wise lady....thanks for all the great wisdom on organization.

Warmly,"

Holly, Atlantic City, NJ, USA

 "Thank you  --  I DO enjoy these and they keep me motivated to make progress.  I appreciate your sharing your insights and encouragement and wisdom!"

Trish, Cincinnati, Ohio, USA

"Thank you so much for this great article.  It has helped me more than anything I have ever read!  I always gleam something important from each of your articles; however this particular one helped me to understand what needs to be done to change habits, and why.  The everyday, mundane household chores was causing me to think negatively about myself.  If I could not do everything I had on my "to do list" I felt overwhelmed.  Your article really put things in perspective, and for that I am grateful. Tomorrow will be a new, brighter day.

Kindest regards,"

Frances, Augusta, GA, USA

"That was a fantastic article...!!!!!!!!!!!  This so falls in my day and how my partner doesn't necessarily appreciate tidiness or understand how it affects me!!!  I have a 3 y/o boy and a 5 mos old baby and I am constantly expressing how important it is to keep toys in their place and putting their dishes by the sink after eating!!!....he even points out to his father how messy he is...hahaha...thank you!!!  this made a difference in my day today especially!"

Angela Zangari, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, USA

 "Thanks a lot, I'm enjoying your article tremendously"

Dalene Rall, Pretoria, South Africa

"Thanks for your newsletter about shopping.

I really like the idea of keeping a list of prices of things bought
regularly.  I often don't know whether something is a real bargain or not.
Plus in Canada products such as dry goods are sometimes priced in metric
measures and sometimes in imperial so it's hard to compare.  Toilet tissue,
facial tissue and paper towels are sometimes priced per sheet, and sometimes
by roll, and the sheets may be different sizes or different numbers in the
box.

One of my tricks is to put all of the same kind of items together on the
cash register's track:  canned goods, dry goods, paper goods, and
particularly vegetables, frozen food, and refrigerator food.  When they are
put into bags, I make sure that the last three groups are packed together.
Then if I'm really in a hurry when I get home I can easily pick out the
perishables and put them away, leaving the rest for later.

I know that everything should be put away immediately, but I am a 24/7
caregiver to my husband who is an invalid and I often only have 1-1/2 hours
at a time to drive to the store, shop, and get back home before he needs my
attention again.

Hoping this helps someone else, and thanks again for all your good ideas.

Heather, Brampton, Ontario, Canada

"I am so glad I read your articles.  It "hit the nail on the head".  I am the one that is frustrated over my partner's being a slob in some areas.  Thank you for the new insight as to "how to encourage him or not" and get on w/life!"

Jani, Shellsburg, United States

"Wonderful article again!  What an enormous help these newsletters are!  Just wanted to say thanks again - they are real "life savers" to me.  I have been receiving the newsletters for a while now and have saved them to a folder in my InBox so I can refer back to them - there are so many areas in which your hints etc will be - and are - of great help to me.  They say "a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step" and I have many miles to go before I reach my destination and my goals with what I want to do with my house and my life but I intend on taking what I learn from your newsletters etc every step of the way with me!  It is a big world and filled with so many people but often we feel like we are the only ones going thru what we are going thru - your newsletters etc help us realize we are not alone and that there are true solutions and a much better life to be had - Thank you again for the wonderful help and ideas and support!  Looking forward to the next step and the next newsletter!"

Vivian - Louisville Ky USA

"Dear Yvette,

You have turned my untidy, disorganized life around by 360 degrees.  I've been receiving your tips for some time now and decided on 23 October to spring clean my home and store rooms.  Have chucked out so much.  You have taught me to maintain sanity with time and rushing around with 3 small children.  My pet hate is planning the meal every day.  Well you "planning meals" has helped me to such an extent I am enjoying it now.  Thanks for your reply, I found the tip I was looking for.  Your web page is great.

Kind regards,"

Charlene Du Toit, Kokstad, South Africa

"Hi Yvette:

I am so enjoying your helpful tips, it is amazing how smart you are!  I am delighted with what I have learned so far.  It just reinforces what I have known for a long time, and a lot of which I have been using, thought it is the sticking to the routine that gets me "stuck".

I have a spouse who has been home for 17 years due to illness, and he had hernia surgery on Sept. 11, and it is taking longer to heal.  This requires me to be giving much more time to him than I am used to.  So these tips have really helped.

Sincerely,"

Loretta David, Chilliwack, BC, Canada

"Dear Yvette,

I am finding all of your information interesting and it has encouraged me to start to clean up that room where everything gets shoved into.  Whether you know it or not you are helping so many other people in a way you never thought possible.  Thank you."

Sue, Lake Munmorah, Australia

"Dear Yvette,

I just can't begin to tell you how much your book and newsletters have changed my life!  I LOVE reading your writing style.  The newsletters keep me focused on the things that are important to me. Rather than just a how to book, your moral attitude comes through very well on how to live one's life to the fullest and the best.  Thank you so much for deciding to reach out."

Sincerely,

Jen Jameson, Portland Orgegon, USA

"Thanks for the newsletter, Yvette.  It is just packed full of useful information that is both moral and spiritual.  Thanks again, Yvette.  Lovely advice."

Elizabeth, Winnipeg, Canada

"You have NO idea how much I needed this TODAY.  THANK YOU!!!!!"

Pat Woods,  Pueblo Colorado, USA

"I am really enjoying your tips.  It's fun to see the ones I am already using and it's wonderful to get new tips.  Thanks so much."

Shirley Crenshaw, Kansas, USA

"Good morning to you!

I am a 28 year old career, married woman with one child.  My life is always busy, having meetings, family parties and friends.  Never got time to do house work and stuff, I'm always rushing....House work always piles up and often to tired to do anything.  Had to come up with some idea to make my life enjoyable, then you came along.

I always thought that these kind of advises dint apply for young women like me.  It made me realise that its not about an age group, more to sort out your individual priorities.  It sometimes put stress on the marriage as well.

I just want to say thank you very much to you Yvette for, helping me getting my life organised.  Ever since I received your advise I can see that my life is sorting itself out.  Thank you for letting me know that you can enjoy life better when its organised.

Thank you for being an inspiration to life.  I really enjoy reading your letters it gives me new hope for being a young married mom.

Keep up with your excellent work performance.

Love Evelyn, Cape Town, South Africa

"Hi Yvette,

Just to give you some feedback about your newsletter and ebook.  I am an organised person who allowed disorganisation to take over my life for just over 20 years.  In fact I was "too organised" which attracted a lot of "criticism/attention" from others around me, so I sub-consciously let it slide to my detriment.  My mission now is to reclaim it.  I am now taking control of my life in many areas, and have since learned that my greatest strength became my greatest weakness because I took it for granted.  In doing so, I have noticed the synchronicity with the theme of your newsletters and the things I focus on the be re-organised.  Meal planning has been the focus for me this week and lo and behold a newsletter on meal planning.  So thank you for being so in tune with the messages of the Universe and supporting me along my journey to reclaim my gifts and achieve my dreams.

Maureen, London, England

"GREAT ideas and thoughts here...thanks a lot and keep 'em coming!!"

Deb Gray, Freelton, Ontario, Canada

"THANKS A MILLION, YVETTE.  You hit on one of my greatest weaknesses with your first tip!  I have decided that I will strive to make diarising and reading the entries a priority.

Regards,"

Gita Spiller, Johannesburg, Republic of South Africa

"Thank you, thank you, thank you, these tips are so helpful and I appreciate the help so much."

R Hoffay, Hight Point NC USA

"Yvette,

I just wanted to write to let you know how much I enjoy your emails.  This one in particular was just what I needed!  I do get out of bed when I need to every morning, but my attitude is terrible!  I have always held the mantra "I'm not a morning person" and of course, saying that my whole life has made me a grumpy zombie every morning when I wake up.  I grumble as I turn off the alarm, I complain as I get dressed, I get angry as I make the coffee, and needless to say, it takes me until the afternoon to get my attitude turned around!  Well, thanks for the wake-up Call!!  LITERALLY!  No more!  Tomorrow I will greet the day knowing that I am doing it for ME!  My day really is better if I am up and at 'em at the appropriate time.  I appreciate the time and effort you put into your newsletters.  They have made a difference in my life and my family's!

Thank you,"

Amy, Mitchell, South Dakota, USA

"Dear Yvette,

I am not a young Mother like you but a Grandmother with twin grand daughters and three teenage grandsons who live a long way from me.

I have had tremendous results from reading your daily get organise ideas.  many I already encompass in my life but we can always learn something new to add to our quality of life.

Thankyou for your thoughtful ideas which have added a new dimension to my life.

Kindest thoughts to you and your family."

M Josephine Jones, Nelson, New Zealand

"Hello Yvette,

Just thought I would let you know that I do read your newsletter.  I am a mother of 6 and grandma (nana) of 10.  My time seems busier than when all six were home.  I am always looking for ways to make life flow easier.  Your ideas are very good.  Thank you."

Ruth Webster, Sunshine Coast, Queensland, Australia

"Yvette:

Wow.  In reading this, I was blown away by your quiet truth.  I've been spending much time on self-analysis lately, and your simple truth about how we can view discipline struck a mega chord in me.  I realized, while reading, that I have always thought, "I have to choose between achieving my goals and being happy".  I never realized that I could be happy AND achieve my goals!!

I am consciously incorporating this into my goals for weight loss.  I will get back to you in a few months as the changes occur.

As for the e-book, I am floored with its fabulousness.  I have been on holiday for the past month, so my sister has been reading my copy, and my dad has given your website to a couple people.  I love that you talk so much about internal motivation and reasons for disorganisation....that is very important, in my eyes.  I've learned that before I make a change I must understand WHY I'm doing it or else the change will be temporary at best.  You put things so clearly and so simply, I keep having AHA!! moments as I read it.

So thank you for listening to your calling, going out on a limb, and creating your own business.  I sing your praises to all I meet!  And I look forward to seeing these changes -- however small -- I am making, under your suggestion, manifest in my life.

Best wishes,"

Megan Phillips, Vancouver, Canada  www.meganphillips.com

"Just want to say how much I look forward to your newsletter.  This week's on Self Discipline really hit home and has motivated me to take a second look a a lot of things.  Thanks for all your good news!"

Valerie, Ohio, USA

Dear Yvette,

Thank you for my seven hints this week and your newsletter today.  What is it that has made these simple things so difficult to do? 

Thanks again."

Marje, West QLD, Australia

"I recently signed up for your free steps and newsletter.

I just wanted to leave a little feedback letting you know that the emails you have sent me are being a great help in my life.  I have recently separated from the father of my 1 and 5 year old who I have been with for 7 years and was finding it hard to cope.  I now feel like I am slowly but surely on the mend.

Thank you for helping."

Jennah, Brisbane, QLD, Australia

"Hi Yvette!

I really enjoy reading your texts, thank you!  They are very helpful :)

Best Regards,"

J. Meira, Sheffield, UK

"Thank you.  Your letter, ideas.....direction has encouraged me to take some action.  Thank you again."

Judith, Boston, Ma, USA

"Hello Yvette,

This newsletter was exactly what I needed (a swift kick in the pants) to get me thinking, and motivated.  Keep 'em coming.  You are one terrific writer!  Thank you!"

Peggy B. McGalliard, Montgomery, AL. USA

"Thanks Ivette,

Great article"

Cheers

Mica, Takaka, New Zealand

"thank you for this article.  It has given me a lot to think about and a realistic possibility of changing the bad habits set in over 70 years."

Arlene, Woodcliff Lake, NJ, USA

"Yvette!

I love your emails!!!!  Thank you so much!!

Best"

Siobhan C, Toronto, Canada

"I've recently received a "promotion" at work to do much of the project scheduling/managing.  I really have no clue as to how to do this.

Your articles have really encouraged me.  The line "Keep it moving, keep it moving" was exactly what I needed to hear!

Thank you so much for freely sharing your wisdom!

Pamela, Tennessee, USA

"Dear Yvette,

Thank you for this website subscription.  I live alone and often wonder how to clean stains, get myself into "gear" to do household jobs, etc.  I like to be organised, but living alone it is so easy to think "I'll do it tomorrow", which never comes.

Kind regards,"

Charles Braan, New Zealand

"I'm so glad to find someone that has been where I've been.  I am eating up everything your write.  I pray that I may be able to start forming good habits with the assignments you have.  Thanks alot."

J. Whyte, Alabama, USA

"Yvette, this is absolutely the best article I have ever read on prioritizing - very good for the leaded perfectionism in my brain that keeps me from moving on out and getting things done!"

Shirley N.  Tallahassee, Florida, USA

"Hello Yvette,

Thank you for another fine article.  The first article on To Do list created a few questions most of which are answered in this latest article.  As I approach the end of this article I realized that your discussion is like a therapy session.  At least for me.  I guess what I'm trying to say is that my attitude to my To Do list has changed in a healthy way as a result of absorbing your ideas.  Viewing To Do list from your perspective, "not part of my normal routine and not yet committed to" was an epiphany for me.  This definition makes it OK to have items on the To Do list for months.  The routine task and task you have committed to are on your calendar.  So, as long as you maintain the calendar, you are on top of things.  Wow!  It's that simple.  I can't believe I never got that until now.

Thanks again,"

Malcolm, Pacifica, CA, USA

"Thanks Yvette,

You should know that I enjoy your email newsletter.  The last article on To-Do list created a "little bulb" moment for me.

Thanks again"

Malcolm, Pacifica, CA, USA

"Dear Yvette,

I wanted to thank you for your ebook, newsletters and daily tips.  I purchased the ebook in April after visiting my cousin, who has a very clean and organized home.  When I got back I felt depressed and frustrated.  My laundry was overflowing out of the closet, the dishes were stacked up in the sink on the counter and on the table.  The house was a mess and I didn't even know where to begin.   

I started scanning the Internet hoping to find a way to "get myself organized".  I found articles, suggestions and "helpful" hints. Soon I was printing things out and writing down notes only to find myself spending more time on the Internet and writing than actually accomplishing the tasks that lye ahead. The problem was everything sounded great,  but I was never motivated and getting organized still seemed unattainable. Then when I was near the point of self implosion I found your website.  When I read your home page, I kept thinking...this is me.  Everything from missing important deadlines, late fees because I hadn't opened the mail in months, never being able to stick to a budget, funky smells coming from the kitchen and bathrooms to purchasing new clothes because all of our clothes were dirty.  

We had $80 dollars in our account, but I knew I had to buy the book. Despite not having very much money I purchased it...never looking back.  

I began reading and suddenly felt a new sense of determination and focus.  For the first time in my adult life I knew I could do it.  I started small.  Taking it one step at a time.  Soon the dirty laundry pile was disappearing, the funky smells had gone away and I was actually on time to several appointments.  I have even started utilizing a calendar and keeping track of our finances.  I now have a savings...it's small, but what an accomplishment.

One story that I want to share happened about a month after purchasing your ebook.  My husband was training for his EMT certification and we had to travel to the city where he could do his 12 hours at an ER.  When we returned home my husband and sister-in-law went to class and I went to work at cleaning out the car and washing the dirty clothes.  When they returned from class my husband informed me that he had offered a couple of students his scrubs for use at their shift.  Both he and my sister-in-law suggested that we hang up the scrubs and spray them with a fabric spray to "freshen" them up.  I informed them that the scrubs had already been washed and were folded and put away.  Anyone that knows me, knows that cleaning out the car so quickly is a miracle in and of it's self.  Both he and my sister-in-law looked at me incomplete disbelief.  They were completely blown away, which goes to show how my disorganization has effected everyone around me. It also shows how the changes I have made have wowed everyone around me.

I still have set backs, but I am finally beginning to gain control of my laundry, my bills, my junk and more importantly my life.  Your ebook and monthly newsletters have reminded me of what my desires are and how to obtain them.  My life is slowly changing in so many wonderful ways...each day I wake up excited to see what amazing things will happen.  Even better I now have the time to enjoy them.

Thank you so much!"

Christy B, Alamo, NV USA

Thank you for inspiring me! 

"Yvette -

Thanks so much!!  Great ideas.  I HAVE to make lists in order to survive!!  For a few years I was much too ill to do ANYTHING - yet - I "had to" have my lists and cross things off each day or I could NOT have survived !!  All TOO MANY days I could do NOTHING, but still had to cross "something" off my list.

I am SO THANKFUL that I can now add OTHER THINGS to my lists.  Not always can I do what I would like to do, but I still keep on making lists.

At my age, my "mental file cabinet" is so FULL of stuff that I need, more thank ever, to make lists.  I so glad that I'm not the only one!!

So - THANKS FOR THE ENCOURAGEMENT !!  I'll continue to look forward to your newsletter!!

Sincerely,"

Gwen, Torrington, Wyoming, USA

"Hi Yvette,

I was a totally disorganised disfunctional mother until I found your website.  Bought the book and life has been, on the whole, flowing more freely for myself.  Every home should have them, it makes so much sense and very practical.  I now no longer have to stress about anything.

Thanks mate,

A new improved aussie mum, with a whole new purpose in my life.  Keep the emails coming."

Michelle, Branxton NSW, Australia

"Hi Yvette,

Always great stuff.  Thanks a million!  Keep up the good work.  You are doing a brilliant job!

Take care.  Lots and lots of good wishes."

Jimmy, Dublin, Ireland

"Yvette, I really like your emails.  They are so reasonable.  I do procrastinate and feel that it is too much for me to do but when I do get some of it done, it does feel good.

I need lots of help and your ideas help me a lot.

Thanks, Yvette,"

Rosemary, Ohio, USA

"Yvette,

Thanks for responding so quickly, and btw, I love your newsletter!!!  Very informative and practical!

Faithful reader,"

Debbie Gouveia, Sherman Oaks, California, USA

"Hi Yvette,

I'm really enjoying your daily tips.  Thank you very much.

Kind regards,

Trudie, Buckinghamshire, England, UK

"Hi Yvette,

When I read your newsletter this morning, I had to laugh because it's almost as though you were here with me yesterday because your opening line is exactly what I said when I returned yesterday, "Look at this mess!  I only just tidied up.  How did it get like this so fast?"  I really appreciate your newsletters and tips.  They are great and a real inspiration to me."

Sincerely,"

MAM Quebec, Canada

"Hello Yvette

Just a short note to thank you for all the information you have sent to me so far.

I found the various tips and recommendations very interesting and informative and there are many things I will certainly pass on to my students.

Best Regards"

Tom Phillips, Johannesburg, South Africa

"Hi Yvette,

Thanks for your great article.  Storage is an area that I have just started to tackle at home and has at times totally overwhelmed me!

Now I have a much better idea of where to start and how to go about it.

I really enjoy your articles, keep them coming!

Thanks again,"

Kim, Darwin, N.T. Australia

"Thanks so much for your article on developing the habit of being tidy.  I used to be like that but have developed some really sloppy habits.  It has already helped me to remind myself to just "put it away".

Thanks again,"

Mary L Call, M.A.  Staff Counselor, Home Improvement Ministry, Inc.  Tulsa, OK, USA

"Dear Yvette,

Thank you so much for your wonderful tips on getting organized.  Mine and my husband's life style moving four times in the last six years has left our home(s) in a mess.  Especially the one we returned too.  I have 40+ rescued animals to care for daily and due to all the moves we only have trails to walk through in our home now.  I am at my wits end so to speak and am trying to start with baby steps.  I appreciate your advice and will BEGIN today to follow your tips.  I look forward to your regular helpful Email tips.  You have truly been my guardian angel.  You will never know how much your GENTLE words of encouragement and cleaning and organizing tips have meant to me...especially since I was at "rock" bottom and overwhelmed with the disarray at my home. God has indeed blessed me with you.


Very sincerely,"

Mary Gammel, Grenada, Mississippi

"Dear Yvette,

I would like to thank you for sending me such helpful, good advice with respect to keeping my home organised.  I have always liked to keep organised, however there have been times when I get busier in another area of my life that has had to take priority over the home.  But thanks to your emails, I have implemented a new organised structure.  I feel this has been important to me as I know if my home is organised everyone is happier & it really does save time. 

I love the organisation.  I have a place for everything, & it goes back straight in its place.  Since clearing the clutter & giving away large bags of things I just kept for no purpose I feel clearer in my mind too.  I now feel I can get on with focusing on my future with my husband of 8 years.  I have you to thank because you have given my the tools to feel I can now move forward into a new period in my life whatever God brings me/us!

The peace and tranquillity I wake up to is because I acted on your e-mails.  I didn't just read them.  My quality of sleep is also lovely because my mind is even more at peace!

With Best Wishes,"

Princess, Essex, UK

"Hi Yvette

Thank you for all your wonderful newsletter and tips.  I'm glad that you are sending them fortnightly now.  Looking forward to your next newsletter.

Kind regards,"

Mia, Johannesburg, South Africa

"The e-mail on procrastination is great!  It was just what I needed to understand some of my reasons for procrastination.

Thanks!"

Bonita, Saskatoon, Saskatchewan, Canada

"Yvette, I had to smile looking over this email which you sent a couple of weeks ago.  (No, I'm not too good at cleaning out my e-mail box either, especially if it's a good one, like yours.)  The reason I'm smiling is that it's like having my mom here with me.  You need to know I'm 66 years old, and my own mother has been gone for over 30 years.  The thought of having a young, energetic woman like yourself serve as a stand-in for my mom (who was herself a packrat) just tickles me.

Have a good day!"

Margie, Franklin, Wisconsin, USA

"Yvette, thank you for all the good advice.  I love reading all your tips.  You make things seem fun.

All the best,"

Judy

"Dear Yvette,

Thanks for the great tips on your website, very useful & helpful, even for someone who is already well organized!  The calendar idea/tip has helped me out a lot, no longer have to think to myself "Isn't there something I had to do today/this weekend???"!

Thanks again!"

Lori L. Medford, NY USA

"Dear Yvette,

I do want to tell you that just by reading your tips, I was encouraged to force myself to go through all my winter clothes....Then I started on my paper mess.  I am a natural born "messy" person and I need the wisdom that you have written to keep me encouraged.  You have a way of writing your processes just in the "tips" that makes a person really WANT to clean up their environment. 

Thank you for the time you have taken to help others by your learned knowledge.  I can hardly wait to order the online books.

Sincerely,"

Trish Lanahan, Fort Myers, Florida, USA

"Hi Yvette! 

Thanks for the newsletter...:o)  Things are going well here now...gratefully!...HOW handy it has been to also share some new and also well proven tips with my young daughter-in-law who sincerely 'wants' suggestions about things!  She was here yesterday and read your newsletter...said it gave her perfect suggestions for the 'tidying/organizing' blitz that she's on right now!!  God Bless 'n keep 'em coming! x "

Lorene, Chemainus, British Columbia, Canada

"I enjoy your newsletter.  I feel like you understand the way my mind works (or doesn't) better than some of the other organizing advisers, who seem like they haven't "been there" themselves.

Best,

Janis, Washington, DC, USA

"Hi Yvette,

I love reading your emails and enjoy the many helpful tips.  My children often ask me what do I want for my birthday and have given them your details - guess what I am getting for my next birthday present, yes a copy of your book, so Yvette many thanks for putting my life back in order and good luck for the future.  Keep those emails coming.

Off to get ready for work now, its lovely these days to take on board your tips and to return home in the evenings to less clutter.  Thank you Yvette for putting my life back in order

Kind regards,"

Pam, Manchester, UK

"Hi Yvette,

Your letters really changed my life.  I was very organised, until 2 babies arrived in 2 years.  For a long time I struggled to get on top of everything!  Even if I cant change everything at once, I think about the tips often and implement with time.

Have a great day,"

Gwen van der Merwe, Cape Town, South Africa

"Dear Yvette,

Thank you for your newsletters.  I wanted you to know they have made a difference for me.  I appreciate your time and generosity.

Sincerely,"

Kate Curran, New Orleans, LA, USA

"Hi Yvette,

I must say I am REALLY IMPRESSED with your no nonsense approach to being organised and am already looking forward to receiving your tips each day. Anyway, thanks for such an informative site and keep up the great work.

Kind regards,"

Tracey E, Dural, NSW, Australia

"Dear  Yvette

I love your website.  Thank you for all your tips they are amazing.

Many thanks,"

Patricia, Muizanberg, South Africa

"Thank you so much for the 7 daily tips via email and for the easy reading in your Organized for Life book which I downloaded last week.    Your friendly writing style helped us to get motivated and every morning and evening I can hear your words in my head …"   

Wendy, Hollywood, FL USA

"Yvette,
Many thanks for 7 days of great and, most importantly, doable tips! Thanks SO MUCH.  I have told many people about your wonderful website and wonderful ideas!"

Stephanie,  Somerset, PA, U.S.A.

"Thanks so much, I look so forward to receiving your emails!  I have finally
finished reading your book for the first time (I know I will read it many
times more!), and I learned so much from you and about myself.  It has
really motivated me to start with baby steps on habits that will help me
become a more organized person which has been a secret passion of mine for
way too long.  So many areas of my life are disorganized and I have looked
at it as such a huge job, I never knew how to start.  I WANT to be
organized, I really do, I just didn't know how-and you have given me that
light at the end of the tunnel-thank you so much for that."

Carolyn,  Marysville, Ontario Canada

"Love the tips!!!  I keep the reminders on my kitchen counter...scotch taped!"

Mindy, Pleasant Grove

"Dear Yvette,  Thank you for the FANTASTIC tips - they are so what I need to hear!!"

Beverly, Johannesburg, South Africa

“Thank you so much for your advice, just being a little more organised seems so difficult, however your email today really lifted me.  Keep up the good work and please please please keep me on your mailing list."

Ann, Manchester UK

"Hello Yvette, Thank you so much for your invaluable tips on being organized and avoiding procrastination.  I am up to tip # five and already have noticed a marked improvement in my household and with my family.  The tips are so basic and simple yet so effective.  I look forward to receiving your emails every day.  Thanks again.  You've helped me organize my life."

Carolyn, Auckland, New Zealand.

"Thanks Yvette for a great newsletter!    A thumbs up to you for helping me out in this area.  It's hard to believe but I've had the experience lately that I must be forgetting to do something really important because I seem to have so much more free time on my hands.  It's amazing what a bit of organisation can do!  Thank you once again.  I look forward to your newsletters."

Joan, Melbourne Australia

"Your tips arrive eagerly awaited in my in-box, thanks for starting my day off with a positive feel.  I will read your tip for today over lunch and hopefully start to put today's tips into practice immediately."

Pamela, Manchester, England

"I am really enjoying your companionship as I start this new organization routine.  Thanks a billion."

cdgood, Mission, BC Canada  www.cdgoodart.com

"Hi Yvette, I really enjoy your mail, yes you're right, it's not just our cupboards and closets, but most importantly how we run our lives.  All the best for you."

Regina Jarlego, Mississauga, Canada

"Dear Yvette,  I would like to thank you for the advise and the self organized tips, they help me a lot.  Best regards,"

Tau Ma'ake,  Adelaide, Australia

"I love the newsletters, Yvette"

Kind regards,

J G, Brisbane, Australia

"Hi Yvette,

I am enjoying your one a day tips they are great !!! They are easy to add to the schedule.  Thank you for keeping them so simple.  I look forward to hearing from you tomorrow."

Sheryl Dockter, Edmonds, WA, USA

"To all those who have sent me their feedback and testimonials, please know that I am very grateful.  Your encouragement means a lot to me"  Yvette

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This is what readers are saying about Organized for Life...

"Thank you, Yvette, for allowing me to participate in your great site. Your letters have helped me spot areas I need to work on very badly. I moved my mother in with us three years ago and since she insisted on bringing most of her things with her, I had to clear out a lot of my hobby and craft supplies. I have "stuffed" all of them into two other already-filled-to-the-brim rooms, but keep procrastinating in sorting, tossing and storing things because I can't really decide which ones I want to pursue. I've been taking a "Scarlet view" of it all...you know, I'll think about that tomorrow?...but after visiting an extremely disorganized relative, I think I have a better chance of getting back to the task. Wish me luck and again thank you for all the good advice."

Mary Fulton, New Caney, TX USA

"Dear Yvette,

Let me start by telling you how much I've enjoyed your book, Get Myself Organized.  Having read many books on organization, I found your most relatable to me.  I love your writing style and your common sense approach to staying on top of things.  I'm looking forward to your next newsletter.

Sincerely,"

Audrey Nelsen, Crystal Lake, Illinois, USA

"Yvette,
I really enjoyed your book. I have read many organizing books and I am always trying to become more efficient in doing things. The thing I liked in particular about your book that I have not come across before was the message that "I am doing this for myself" When I was young we had a very orderly family. My dad was in the navy and used to having everything very orderly. I only had one sister and neither one of us was particularly messy. We had one dog and no other pets. Everything stayed organized and relatively clean without a lot of work. I have 4 kids, 2 of them boys. We live on a farm with 5 horses, 3 dogs, 12 or more cats, 2 rabbits which are always having babies, and any number of snakes and lizards or frogs or salamanders that the children have caught. We live on a dirt road which is always muddy or dusty and seems to find its way into the house regularly. On top of this I home school the kids so I spend a lot of time doing this and also the kids are always here--messing the house up!! I would not change our life for one like my childhood, but I would like my house to be as self-cleaning as my mom's. It seems that I am the only one that cares whether or not the house is neat. For the first time I had an organizing person tell me that instead of trying to change them I need to remember I am doing this for myself. That is really the truth of it. I love a neat clean house. I get frustrated when I can't keep it that way. Now I say to myself, when I am cleaning the same entry rug for the 5th time that day that I am doing it because I want it clean. The kids did come in the door they were supposed to come in and wiped their feet and removed their shoes and even put them on the shelf, so they did their part. This has really revolutionized the way I feel when I clean. I am so grateful for your advice.
The other thing I liked was that you broke the organizing down into the decluttering, then organizing, then deep cleaning. This has revolutionized the way I try to teach the girls to go through their stuff. I used to think it all had to be done together. This is very inefficient and the kids lose interest and make more mess before they ever make progress. With this method I give the kids a specific part of their room, a drawer, desk, etc. and only ask them to toss the junk and relocate whatever does not belong there. This is manageable for them and there are instant rewards, even if it is not dust free at this point, they can stop and still see progress. It is also not likely that they will just junk it up again, knowing that the decluttering is now done. This method also gives them time, a day or two, to live with the space before assigning specific things to it. It allows time to purchase containers if needed. It also allows them opportunity to toss the stuff they held back in the beginning and then decided it could go. Finally, it becomes a pleasure to deep clean the newly organized area instead of a dreaded chore midway through a gross organizing job. I am very excited with the book and information. Keep writing. I really enjoy your newsletter."

Bev, Waterford, PA, USA

"Dear Yvette,

I'm still busy reading but have already put a couple of things into practice.

Just to let you know that I almost missed my flight last week reading your book!

Your book is excellent and is very simplistic and easy to follow.  I've started doing some changes in my personal life and realized it was easier to read the book but I will persevere.

Thank you"

Sandra, Johannesburg, South Africa

"Hi,

I am still enjoying the book and reading more than doing at the moment but have implemented a few little things so far.

I feel the main reason I became interested and decided to buy your book was due to my clutter both mine and my kids' clutter is becoming a huge burden and really getting me down. I think the room rotation and just the thought of only using half hour at a time is more appealing to actually getting it done than completely turning one room upside down and being in utter chaos and not wanting to continue with it!

I do have a quote that actually my daughter quoted to me when she knew what I was reading - she is nearly 7 and said she will help me de-clutter so she can have friends over more often and know where everything is and maybe do a car boot with the items she doesnt want anymore. Thats providing her 3 year old sister doesnt get to them first!! Your book has inspired me to slowly de-clutter in room rotation and as I dont have too much spare time can work this in nicely and I am looking forward to having an orderly house back again!!! Thanks so much."

Amanda, Jersey, Channel Islands, UK

"Hi

I am enjoying your book. It has really helped me, especially meal plans section. Now I always have something prepared at home and most importantly on time. I find grocery and other shopping easier this way. Planning my mails has made me even spend wisely and usefully. I cant thank you enough for this. The part where you insist getting up on time, dish washing and Washing, i simply follow those now and I cannot thank you enough for that advice."

Priya, Cape Town, South Africa

"Hi Yvette,

I've finally finished reading your book.  It was great and I'm going to start making those daily/weekly lists after I write to you!

Now I recognize that my auto-pilot wasn't programmed properly.  I will make changes so I'm following a thought out, planned course so I know where I'm going and will stop flying round in circles.

I found this book gave me common sense guidelines to house keeping that I had never learned or asked about when I first left home.  I'll be passing on what I learned to my children and look forward to being more at peace with my home and family (instead of being peeved the cleaning fairies didn't show again).

Tracy, Kalgoorlie, WA, Australia

"Hi Yvette,

I just thought I'd write a "Thank you" for your e-book.  It has been a life saver.  Only starting this week it has helped a lot.  It's funny how I knew all that needed doing and the constant planning and (you know the rest)....You make it easier to start and you have taken the tonne of pressure off.

Thank you again.  Life is great when organized."

Hayley Richardson, Sydney, Australia

"Hey Yvette,

I love it.  Thank You.  I'm implementing and its actually making a difference already.

I'm less stressed, clearer in the mind, and I have a tincy bit of 'free time' starting to appear.

It really just hit home, the penny dropped, just how important organisation is - just how it changes how you feel, operate, enjoy your day.  Its kind of like sifting through the rubble and starting to see some daylight - if that makes any sense.  I can see I'm going to start having time very soon for the actual things that are important - like reading and writing with my 5 year old, I want to start studying again - that now seems possible."

Tracey, Sydney, Australia

"Hi Yvette,

This is the first book I am reading chapter by chapter like 'holy book' out of 100's of personality development books/ebooks which I read so far.  It's really getting on with my rhythm.

I was amazed by the changes of my approach towards life.  Your book is really super practical and easy.  I found that I had been a 'perfectionist' in my life so far.  Thank you so much."

Krishna, Sharjah, UAE

"Dear Yvette,

Am beginning to work through the Get Myself Organized strategies in your
book,

It makes so much sense - thankyou - it's like finally being able to see the
trees after being surrounded by a forest of things that could do with
attention.

As a  wife with grown up children all left home, working fulltime and
studying post-grad, it has sometimes felt like a balancing or juggling act.

I  have enjoyed  the way you gradually structure the  organisation
process -so thanks in advance - these are early days but I have a sense of
being on the right track and already feel a rise in confidence from knowing
that it will get more organised and manageable  as I stick at it.

Keep up the great work"

Christine Riddy, Feilding, New Zealand

"Yvette,

There is nothing like moving home to get organised.

In the last two weeks we have moved to a duplex, installed our mildly handicapped daughter in one to ease her into independent living and moved into the other during major renovations.  It has rained solidly for two weeks, particularly heavily on the day of the move.  We have not established outside areas for the dogs yet so have had a very wet Irish Wolfhound and Labrador inside for most of that time (on ivory tiles - thank God its tiles and not carpets).  However, all the confusion and stress (plus a smaller kitchen) has strengthened my resolve to simplify - I have chucked out 90% of my 30 year collection of plastics, glass etc. etc.  Now we are using our "good" glasses for that glass of wine and guess what - wine tastes better out of crystal.  Also gone are the boxes inherited from Mum when she went into a retirement village and couldn't part with her memories and left them with me because I had the space.  Gone are the collection of antiquated Christmas decorations.  All the woollen blankets saved (we all use doonas) have gone to the Lord Mayors Winter Appeal (Australia).  So far the Salvation Army has received 10 boxes of crockery, pans etc.  Anything I haven't used for 2 years has gone, some things I didn't even know I had.

My husband is a builder and gone are all the bits of timber, doors, windows that might come in handy one day (except for one piece of cedar that is his retirement project).

Gone is the oversize furniture that fits the entire family around (bought for the annual occasion the whole family was together) and we found we can move around this house freely.

Gone is ALL the tarnished silverware (except for the kids christening cups and they have been sent to them to look after).

The mending box is empty - most of the stuff had been in there for years waiting to be mended - tossed it all.

The emotionally kept but otherwise worthless ornaments inherited from my great grandmother are gone except for about 3 pieces.

Gone are all the old dog collars and tags kept over the years of faithful pets now passed on.

Gone is everything I can't fit into, haven't worn for 12 months as well as half my husband and daughter's wardrobes.

So, despite the trauma and damp dogs, I am on the way as long as I can keep the pace up.

Thank you for a wonderful site and book."

Meg, Newcastle, Australia

"Hi Yvette,

I needed your book to push me to get motivated.  I have always been great a
buying "organising products" eg plastic tubs / files etc - just getting down
to it is hard.  I can't function when in a mess, so for example I have put
my paperwork into files (as you suggested) before I can attempt to organise
it.  Also I have just made the bed - even though I will wash sheets - just
so I can operate in neatness and not get bogged down!! Thanks for the
motivation."

Jenny, Perth, Australia

"Hi
 
I would like to say - a BIG THANKS for giving me a great insight of an 'organised' person! I realise how important it is to review my errands lists daily! It makes my life a lot EASIER!!! I wish I could have read your book and e-mail 8 years ago!!! I have been struggling with my personal paperwork as well as cases with 9 different solicitors! My life is a lot better now and still keep updated with my solicitor!
 
Many many many thanks! How can I thank you enough?!
 
Warm Regards"
 
Kibra, Ethiopia
 
Freelance TV Presenter (BBC)!
&
British Sign Language User (Deaf)
 

"It is time to thank you and let you know that I am on my way to a more controlled life.  I still have a lot to do, but so far I am

1 Finding one home for all things that I want to keep. I had too many places for some items.

2 Opening my mail right away and putting a reminder into my computer calendar so that I know when the bills are due.  I will no longer wait for a day to pay the bills but do them a few days before they are due.

3 Opening my mail near the paper recycling container so that it can go out for pick up without having to find it first.  And all addresses and private information go to the paper shredder."

Bee, Sioux Falls, SD, United States

"Hi Yvette,

I have just finished reading your book.  I printed it off as I enjoy reading
and will often have a coffee while shopping and then read some.

Initially when I was receiving your email tips I didn't think I'd need to
purchase the book as I was already organising my house/work/life (this had
been a very slow process, for the past few months).  Then I read where you
said that if you didn't work out why the clutter existed then it would only
come back again.  Well, I'm still not sure exactly why, but I think it is
linked in with respecting myself.  I'll have to work on that one....

In the meantime, I have enjoyed reading your book.   Now I can arm myself
with lists and schedules, so I can divert the distractions.  I work from
home so distractions come easily!

I also realise that if I wish to outsource my jobs, than I also need a type
of instruction manual with a realistic time frame attached.  This will help
future workers.

All of this is now possible because I have read and absorbed your book.
I'll still need to go back and re-read some of it to ensure I'm covering
everything I need to.  But for now, I'll start implementing the ideas, and
go from there.

Thanks so much.

Regards,"

Vickii, Perth, Australia

"Hi Yvette,

I love your book!  I am still busy reading it and can't wait to really get stuck into my new organized life! 

I am a hopeless perfectionist and can relate to everything you say in the book.  The hardest part will definitely be to stay in the time frame for each task.  When I decide to clean the kitchen bench top, I usually end up cleaning the oven inside out and wash the windows and wash the floor with a toothbrush, all in one go... and then I am usually late for work!  Vacuum cleaning is a nightmare because it takes me ages to finish because I end up vacuuming the sofas and the walls and the ceiling corners.  I am wondering if I should clean the whole house from top to bottom first (maybe on the weekend) and then carry on with the routine and stick to the time allocated to each task."

(Yvette here - the answer to this question was NO!)

"Anyway, I wanted to send you a message, 'cause it feels like I know you personally!  Thanks for a great book and helping me sort out some crucial points."

U. Grobler, Wellington, New Zealand.

"Hi Yvette,

I've enjoyed reading your e-book.  I have to say its a real comfort to read it.  A lot of it is common sense ideas, and it reminds me a lot of the folklore that my mother used to tell me over the years, as she is quite organised in her household. Whereas I was the opposite. I love to read your thoughts, as it inspires me when things are down.  Thank you and keep up the good work with your project."

Ida, Brisbane, Australia

"Hi Yvette,

I’m so glad that I purchased your e-book and will be forever grateful to you for writing it. I’m finding that the simple act of glancing at my ‘daily routines’ is keeping me in check and motivated….even though a lot of the things have become second nature, just to be reminded to take the chicken out of the freezer to defrost in preparation for dinner, rather than half cooking it in the microwave at 5.30pm is priceless! A wave of completion washes over me once the morning routines (including my now daily exercise) are done and then I shift a bit of focus onto the de-clutter and clean. I’m only about 8% of the way through my home but can see the results very clearly (no more pink grout in my shower) and vow that this is the new me (and our new home) and am even looking forward to maintaining it all. It’s quite bizarre, as I’ve found that more of my home is cleaner and I seem to have more time for ‘me maintenance’….I had a lovely foot soak last night, have been exercising in the mornings, have caught up with more family & friends, am booked in to have a check up with my doctor in a few days and the 2 little ones will be checked over by the community nurse tomorrow (which was quite a bit overdue) ….all because I made time ..…many thanks to you!

Once again Yvette, thank you for your part in helping me feel better about myself and my home.  Have a great day, 'cause I am!"

Tracey, Dural, Australia

"Hi Yvette,

What I have read "speaks to me". Right from the start.. what I am discovering is that I am not a born disorganized person.. but I do have a problem making decisions and your step by step presentation has brought about changes in my thought process already.  You know this all comes at an interesting time because with the side effect of chemo therapy.. what we call "Chemo brain" is created a special challenge for those of us trying to complete tasks without wandering off into a myriad of other distractions. I have no doubt there are a bunch of us cancer survivors facing this problem. Your e book is yet another support in getting on with my life in some very
basic ways that have become somewhat more difficult due to this
hopefully temporary condition."

Julia, Santa Cruz, CA, USA

"Yvette's e-book helped me to realise I wasn't as disorganised as I thought.
I valued her perspective, as a mother of young children. She reminds us that
the top priority is to get plenty of sleep and to allow time to relax and
calmly handle the interruptions children always bring to the best laid
plans.  I have no children but I found her ideas very relevant to improving the
quality of my lifestyle. 

Her writing tone is warm, encouraging and very readable.  It's about doing more with less stress, feeling powerfully in charge of day to day time management."

Sue, Wellington, New Zealand

"My motivation levels have increased immensely because I now have a
'plan of action'."

Shanda, Victoria, Australia

"Dear Yvette,

I really loved your book. I was very nervous about ordering an e-book and despite all your reassurance was afraid it might just be a scam! But I was feeling so bad about things that I decided it was worth the risk  and am really pleased I did as the book is even better than I expected.

The main and unexpected benefit was your insight into what can lead to disorganization ie the contents of Chapter 2. This led me not only to recognise how disorganization was the result of some psychological issues but that it was also aggravating them! It even helped me re-appraise how I deal with my teenage daughter!

I liked the chapters on daily routines as I guess they seem really achievable and just having a list seems to ensure they get done. ie if I am feeling tired or fed-up, previously I would just do nothing, now I just go to the next thing on the list as it requires no effort in decision making.

Best Regards,"

Frances Lack, Penzance, Cornwall, UK

"Thanks so much for your book.  The tone of your writing is kind humorous and uplifting.  I've already been able to implement some of your suggestions, but today I needed to remind myself of what you said -- that I already made the decision to get out of bed so don't think about how down you are (I am lately) just get up.  Your words are going to be with me a long time, because I needed help in some very concrete areas of my life.  Again, thanks so much.

Best,"

L Johnston Filios, Iowa City, IA, United States

"Hi Yvette

I did enjoy the book and I've read it through a couple of times.

I'm still working on getting myself more organised in some areas but I have already implemented the menu planning.  It took a couple of hours to think about and sort out the first one which I did for a whole month but it has really made so many things easier, the shopping, organising the freezer, no more having to think about what to have, the children think it's great they know exactly what they will be getting, and my daughter has even started cooking a few of the meals for me so it is ready when I get home from work.  She knows what needs to be cooked without having to wait until I arrive home and then start!  It's a miracle...

Kind regards,"

Trudie, Fleet, Hampshire, UK

"Hi Yvette

Thanks very much for your book.  I really enjoyed reading it and have already started to get organised.

I bought the book as I needed a plan/strategy to get going.  I have a 12 month old baby and am working 4 days a week.  It is very hard to find time to get everything done - and for months now tasks and mess would continually build up and become overwhelming.

The thing I liked most was the practical and do-able plan of action.  Breaking it down into routines and room rotations helps to make the process of becoming organised achievable.  You don't need full days of uninterrupted time to make progress - 15 or 30 mins here and there can work.  I also like the quick clean suggestion - I was always overwhelmed by the task of cleaning the floors as I thought it had to be done perfectly and so I rarely did it and only vacuumed.  With a crawling baby it is essential and so I have started the weekly express clean.  I am working on menu planning and a master shopping list now too - something I have also thought would be great, but never had the inclination to do it.

After reading your book, I feel a bit more in control and inspired to get organised.  Thank you!

Kind regards,"

Lucy Harel, Wollstonecraft (Sydney), Australia

"Hello Yvette!

Just to say a HUGE thank you for the e-book!  It's absolutely marvellous and EXACTLY what I needed!   A new time has come in the Holmgren household!  Bless you for doing such a fab job - I LOVE your sense of humour, I think it's because you're Australian (I'm English but married to a Swede - Swedish women are INCREDIBLY house proud and I feel like the ugly duckling!

Love,"

Jacqui Holmgren, Norrkoping, Sweden

"Dear Yvette,

Thank you so much for your book. I believe it should be mandatory reading for anyone contemplating leaving home and or getting married.  Blokes should equally read this manual just to get an idea of what we women do.

My daughter is 25 , just married and is expecting her first child in 6 months. I have been trying to help her organize her home, finances and health. Three most important things in life not necessarily in that order. You can talk all you want, you can go over to her house and do a massive clean up for her, you can organize her bills and have her in some state of calm and cleanliness. This however always ends with the same result - failure - because I am doing it for her.

When I discovered your book I read it and the first forty pages were absolutely brilliant!  You have managed to get to the real core of the problem we all have within us and your sense of humour makes it all bearable. We have to fix ourselves first.

I sent the E book to Lana the next day.  (By post after I printed it out!)  She rang me while reading it and the change has been phenominal.  Once we realise that we are doing it for ourselves and we cannot change people around us and we not responsible for their mess it is  easy. With luck we can influence them to some degree and they may come over to the "Organized Side". I am very pleased to say that Lana is now well on her way to a much calmer, and organized life with a massive boost to her confidence and self esteem.

Thank you so much!

Regards,"

Jayne McLean-Hodgson, Brisbane, Australia

"I have been reading the e-book by sections, and so far, I think it is wonderful and gave me a lot of good ideas that I want to put in practice.  Your section on feeling good about yourself was really good.  I am learning to take better care of myself.  The section on self-image was excellent too.  I thought that you were writing to me.  And the sentence "you deserve to treat yourself well, and being organized is a sign of self respect" make me think a lot because I never saw it that way.

Sincerely,"

Consuelo, Brisow, VA, USA

"Hi Yvette,

I think that your book is absolutely brilliant!!  Reading it is like reading my own thoughts but all neatly arranged and concrete!

I am just starting up as a Professional Organiser.  Your book is a fantastic kick start for me.  Thank you."

Margie Theakston, Canberra, Australia

"I LOVE YOU! (in a non-threatening purely fan-based way!!)

I've been reading your book - I action things as I go along - and it is the single best investment I have ever made, better than the house we are building I say!

I have problems with anxiety attacks and depression and have to take medication daily.  After finding your book I am making huge leaps forward with my life.  I have moved to part-time work for a while to help me get back on track but your book has really helped.  It came at the right time as our house will be finished in 6 weeks and I am using this time to set up all my lists/files/goals and completely declutter the house and set the new house up in all your fantastically recommended ways.  I can do my weekly household in 2 hours on a Tuesday morning now, I never have more than 3 things a week to iron, if I have ironing and I don't feel like things are getting on top of me.

It is one of those books I will refer to in years to come - should I ever feel a little overwhelmed.

Thank you for writing it.

Michelle Peterson, Brisbane, Australia

"Hi Yvette,

I have really enjoyed your book.  I have been busy trying to put things into practice i.e. allocating time for everything and following it through.  The book actually broke down daily routines and put them in sequence that really makes sense.  The points made are directly applicable and results are immediately obvious.

I have read quite a few materials on getting organised, managing your time, etc but this definitely stands out because of its daily relevance and comprehensiveness.  My suggestion is for anyone that wants to really benefit from this book is take it in steps."

H. A. A, London, England

"Dear Yvette,

I just can't begin to tell you how much your book and newsletters have changed my life!  I LOVE reading your writing style.  The newsletters keep me focused on the things that are important to me. Rather than just a how to book, your moral attitude comes through very well on how to live one's life to the fullest and the best.  Thank you so much for deciding to reach out."

Sincerely,

Jen Jameson, Portland Orgegon, USA

"Thank you very kindly for your very speedy response to my e-mail and thank you as well for your words of advice.
 
I was most impressed with your introduction to getting organized.  I was quite at the point of desperation, but your words spoke to me eloquently and seemed to get to the heart of my problem. 

There is just ssoooooo much information in this e-book, that while I am "running" through it, grabbing tidbits here and there, I just know I will be reading it more than once.  Every page had some insight on it that I take careful note of. 
  
Your section in the e-book on feeling good about yourself was a serious lift.  Yes, I did go out a buy myself some lipstick to start.  Yes, I am beginning to see myself in a different light.  Someone who really does matter in my life.  Yes, I am learning to take better care of myself. 

Things are going rather well, I must say.  I am still working on your book, and yes, it really is a huge benefit.  I am now going thought it and highlighting a lot of what I consider quite important, and believe me, many of the pages have more than a few lines highlighted.  That, of course is just the way it should be. 

In reading through your e-book I have found the practice of day to day events being guided – naturally.  Yes, there are still a great many messes in the house, but, what has been tidied is staying tidied, and that was so important.  There is no doubt in my mind that you were heaven sent."

Elizabeth, Winnipeg, Canada

"Hi Yvette,

Just to give you some feedback about your newsletter and ebook.  I am an organised person who allowed disorganisation to take over my life for just over 20 years.  In fact I was "too organised" which attracted a lot of "criticism/attention" from others around me, so I sub-consciously let it slide to my detriment.  My mission now is to reclaim it.  I am now taking control of my life in many areas, and have since learned that my greatest strength became my greatest weakness because I took it for granted.  In doing so, I have noticed the synchronicity with the theme of your newsletters and the things I focus on the be re-organised.  Meal planning has been the focus for me this week and lo and behold a newsletter on meal planning.  So thank you for being so in tune with the messages of the Universe and supporting me along my journey to reclaim my gifts and achieve my dreams.

Maureen, London, England

"Hi Yvette,

I just wanted to say that I really enjoy your articles and I have been reading your ebook.  It has helped me VERY much.  I am very grateful that I found your website.  Before I found your website I was getting so frustrated with myself because I knew I needed to get organized but just didn't know how and that overwhelmed me even more.  You have given me direction to improving my life.  I feel that everyone who is "organizationally challenged" ;0) should get the chance to read your book.  You write in a very understandable way and the humor you incorporate in you book makes it easier to relate to.  It makes me feel that I am not the only one with this problem and that encourages me to take your advice.

Thank You so much!"

Charity Wittman, Cody, Myoming, USA

"Yvette:

Wow.  In reading this, I was blown away by your quiet truth.  I've been spending much time on self-analysis lately, and your simple truth about how we can view discipline struck a mega chord in me.  I realized, while reading, that I have always thought, "I have to choose between achieving my goals and being happy".  I never realized that I could be happy AND achieve my goals!!

I am consciously incorporating this into my goals for weight loss.  I will get back to you in a few months as the changes occur.

As for the e-book, I am floored with its fabulousness.  I have been on holiday for the past month, so my sister has been reading my copy, and my dad has given your website to a couple people.  I love that you talk so much about internal motivation and reasons for disorganisation....that is very important, in my eyes.  I've learned that before I make a change I must understand WHY I'm doing it or else the change will be temporary at best.  You put things so clearly and so simply, I keep having AHA!! moments as I read it.

So thank you for listening to your calling, going out on a limb, and creating your own business.  I sing your praises to all I meet!  And I look forward to seeing these changes -- however small -- I am making, under your suggestion, manifest in my life.

Best wishes,"

Megan Phillips, Vancouver, Canada  www.meganphillips.com

"Hi,

I am still reading the book.  I am seeing myself in a lot of what you say in the beginning.  I was always so stressed out and overwhelmed by everything I thought I had to get done, completely, in one day.  No one pressures me, but me.  I am glad to know I am not crazy, or lazy.  I have to take baby steps to do this, so I am taking my time reading.  The advice and the knowledge in the book is extremely helpful and gives me hope.  I've already found confidence in decision making.  I had no self esteem whatsoever, but I'm working on it.  I haven't quite jumped into cleaning regularly yet, but I am getting there.  I would get so overwhelmed every morning, thinking I had to clean the house top to bottom, perfectly, that I would just go back to bed and set the alarm in time for me to go pick my kids up from school.  And I hated that feeling.  I got depressed over it.  I've made a million lists thinking that would fix everything....ok so now I'm treating you like a therapist.

Thanks for the book and I would highly recommend it to anyone who is struggling like I am/was."

Jennifer Hollums, Griffin, GA, U.S.

"Hi Yvette,

The effect of your e-Book on me has really been quite profound.  Since most of it spoke directly to me like some sage counsellor who had been sent to inspire me out of the doldrums, this should come as no surprise!  I now clearly see my domestic nightmare as a symptom of the struggling person I have become and I can't wait to get to the point where I have worked through all the stages you suggest and feel myself empowered again.

I am full of hope that all you have said in your e-book will come to fruition in my life.  I can now see why thing have gotten so out of hand and it isn't because I am a despicable sloth, I just didn't have the insights I needed to wage war on bad habits and shabby attitudes, but you have provided those now.  You can't imagine how grateful I am to you.

Best regards,"

Pam Kelly, Mittagong, NSW, Australia

"Hi Yvette,

I thoroughly enjoyed your book.  I tackled it by a quick read through it all, then going back to chapter one and working my way through, working out my routines, systems and room by room routine, assigning days for everything.  I have now started on my lists, planning whilst sitting in the garden in the sunshine.  I love the structured format given, to get myself organized for life without obsessing and relaxing with less than 100% perfection.

Thank you"

Mandy Gerrard, Bristol, United Kingdom

"Hi Yvette,

I found your website and decided after reading some tips that I had to buy your e-book.  This is a first for me, I have never yet bought an ebook online, so kudos to your site!

Obviously you touched a big chord in me: although my house isn't as bad as something they might show on TV, we (husband, 2 school age kids) live in a dusty old house with badly laid out rooms and few cupboards, and perpetual attempts at renovation.  I feel so overwhelmed by the clutter and chaos that I am either exhausted or panicky so I get nowhere except for re-arranging the dust.  I am now also allergic to house dust and have been coughing for 3 months now after a minor chest cold, exacerbated by the dust.  Did I mention dust?

I pore over your book each evening.  I haven't quite finished it yet, but I am starting t make (more (and more sensible)) lists and plans.  I feel like I can really take control and get this sorted!  There is a noticeable difference already.

Thanks again,"

Theresa Hargitai, Cape Town, South Africa

"Dear Yvette,

Regarding the e-book that I purchased from you, I would like to thank you for taking the time to write it.

I have always seemed to lack the organizational skills required for things to be ticking over the way I would like.  Since reading your book and implementing your suggestions, I have seen a massive difference in my life already.  For the first time (in a long time), I feel that I have a day to get on with.  Since becoming a full time mum and homemaker I have felt out of action, as I love to go out to work.  I didn't have the skills required to make home life work until now, thanks to you.  My home looks better, feels more peaceful, I no longer fear anybody calling around and as for the pile of post that I was collecting in a haphazard manner, well its gone.  I can find things, and I haven't even finished yet.  I look forward to the next job, knowing its another step on the way to an even tidier, cleaner house.  So thank you.

I think one of the most useful parts for me was decision making.  Being a Libran, I seem to particularly struggle with this but I listened to what you said and stopped questioning my decisions and feel that I have moved on.  Also, the fact that everything is laid out step by step means that you don't actually have to make any decisions if you don't want to, they've already been made by you, which was extremely helpful.

Once again, thank you, I have been making lists, rules, plans etc for years now.  Thank goodness you seem to have it all worked out.

Yours gratefully"

Julie, Manchester, England

"Dear Yvette,

I wanted to thank you for your ebook, newsletters and daily tips.  I purchased the ebook in April after visiting my cousin, who has a very clean and organized home.  When I got back I felt depressed and frustrated.  My laundry was overflowing out of the closet, the dishes where stacked up in the sink on the counter and on the table.  The house was a mess and I didn't even know where to begin.   

I started scanning the Internet hoping to find a way to "get myself organized".  I found articles, suggestions and "helpful" hints. Soon I was printing things out and writing down notes only to find myself spending more time on the Internet and writing than actually accomplishing the tasks that lye ahead. The problem was everything sounded great,  but I was never motivated and getting organized still seemed unattainable. Then when I was near the point of self implosion I found your website.  When I read your home page, I kept thinking...this is me.  Everything from missing important deadlines, late fees because I hadn't opened the mail in months, never being able to stick to a budget, funky smells coming from the kitchen and bathrooms to purchasing new clothes because all of our clothes were dirty.  

We had $80 dollars in our account, but I knew I had to buy the book. Despite not having very much money I purchased it...never looking back.  

I began reading and suddenly felt a new sense of determination and focus.  For the first time in my adult life I knew I could do it.  I started small.  Taking it one step at a time.  Soon the dirty laundry pile was disappearing, the funky smells had gone away and I was actually on time to several appointments.  I have even started utilizing a calendar and keeping track of our finances.  I now have a savings...it's small, but what an accomplishment.

One story that I want to share happened about a month after purchasing your ebook.  My husband was training for his EMT certification and we had to travel to the city where he could do his 12 hours at an ER.  When we returned home my husband and sister-in-law went to class and I went to work at cleaning out the car and washing the dirty clothes.  When they returned from class my husband informed me that he had offered a couple of students his scrubs for use at their shift.  Both he and my sister-in-law suggested that we hang up the scrubs and spray them with a fabric spray to "freshen" them up.  I informed them that the scrubs had already been washed and were folded and put away.  Anyone that knows me, knows that cleaning out the car so quickly is a miracle in and of it's self.  Both he and my sister-in-law looked at me incomplete disbelief.  They were completely blown away, which goes to show how my disorganization has effected everyone around me. It also shows how the changes I have made have wowed everyone around me.

I still have set backs, but I am finally beginning to gain control of my laundry, my bills, my junk and more importantly my life.  Your ebook and monthly newsletters have reminded me of what my desires are and how to obtain them.  My life is slowly changing in so many wonderful ways...each day I wake up excited to see what amazing things will happen.  Even better I now have the time to enjoy them.

Thank you so much!"

Christy B, Alamo, NV USA

Thank you for inspiring me! 

"Hi Yvette,

I was a totally disorganised disfunctional mother until I found your website.  Bought the book and life has been, on the whole, flowing more freely for myself.  Every home should have them, it makes so much sense and very practical.  I now no longer have to stress about anything.

Thanks mate,

A new improved aussie mum, with a whole new purpose in my life.  Keep the emails coming."

Michelle, Branxton NSW, Australia

"I have enjoyed what I have read so far and am finding it very helpful, especially the sections on Procrastination (so easy to do!), Decision making (My nickname is Mrs Ambivalent I am told by a friend) and Motivation.  It is helping me realise that positive habits are the answer and working in small 'boxes' is also very useful.

However I felt a weight lift off my shoulders when I read what you said about tasks never finishing!  At first sight that seems negative, but it actually takes away the burden of feeling that one has failed if one does not get everything organized and decluttered by the time set!

So, many thanks for that Yvette too, and thank you for being realistic and reassuring - unlink some rather forbidding books on decluttering etc that seem to be written by Superwoman!

All good wishes and kind regards,"

JKF, Sheffield, UK

"Hi Yvette,

I am on 'vacation' for the moment and have finally had some time to start reading your e-book and I think it's great.  Many times while reading it, I feel as though you must've been in my kitchen or bedroom seeing me being buried away in my clutter and frustration.  You actually have 'hit it on the head' by saying that we have to start with how we feel and how important it is to feel good about ourself.  The breakdown of your lists are really helpful and it is even helping me to think in a better order as well, if that makes any sense.  Thank you very much for sharing these tips with others.  You are an inspiration.

Sincerely,"

MAM, Quebec, Canada

"Hello Yvette,

I've finally got your book and it was well worth the wait.  You've got some excellent ideas and I can easily see how they can make for an easier life.  I can't wait to start implementing them.

Yours sincerely,"

Shelly Davies, Lower Gornal, West Midlands, England

"Hi again. I just read the book. It is EXACTLY what I was looking for. Now I have a sense of hope AND a realistic plan of attack. Two things I have wanted and needed, for so long.  THANK YOU!!!"

Jill Madison, WI, USA

"Dear Yvette,

The most powerful part for me so far is the statement that getting organized is not about spending forever coming up with complex systems to manage things, but to get a process together that eliminates the need to recreate the wheel every time something comes up.

Thanks for the great reference book!" 

Sincerely," 

Scott Hogue, Nashville, TN. USA

"Thanks so much, I look so forward to receiving your emails!  I have finally
finished reading your book for the first time (I know I will read it many
times more!), and I learned so much from you and about myself.  It has
really motivated me to start with baby steps on habits that will help me
become a more organized person which has been a secret passion of mine for
way too long.  So many areas of my life are disorganized and I have looked
at it as such a huge job, I never knew how to start.  I WANT to be
organized, I really do, I just didn't know how-and you have given me that
light at the end of the tunnel-thank you so much for that."

Carolyn,  Marysville, Ontario Canada
 

"I purchased Yvette's e-mail book...and am I delighted I did! I have always
been an organized gal, but after retiring, I started letting some of those
skills slip a bit...and wasn't terribly pleased with myself. Her book came
into my world by chance, and at a perfect time...and I've learned little
tips to not only get me right back on track and feeling so much better...but
to improve on what I thought I did well in the first place!! I'm picking it
up and reading sections of it several times a day...and have excitedly
called and shared a few of the ideas already with the young women who matter so dearly to me in my life! It's a small investment that reaps giant
rewards!! Do log -on to her site...and treat yourself!"

Lorene, Chemainus, British Columbia, Canada
                                                       

"Thank you so much for the 7 daily tips via email and for the easy reading in your Organized for Life book which I downloaded last week.  Your friendly writing style helped us to get motivated and every morning and evening I can hear your words in my head … "

Wendy, Hollywood, FL, USA

"Dear Yvette, 

I purchased your e-book a couple of weeks ago and I must say you have changed my life!  I have my weekly list of chores to do and when I get something done I mark it off. My house has never been cleaner!!  Thanks again for your wonderful advice."

Lindell, Melbourne, Australia

"Hi Yvette,

I really enjoyed your book.  It took me a long time to finish reading it
because I had to keep stopping and putting your suggestions into practice,
but my house is looking a lot better already, and I only bought the book
yesterday."

Linda, Northamptonshire, UK.

"Hi, I have recently purchased your e-book, and while I am still re-reading it, I have already gotten so much benefit from it, it was well worth the money. The main benefit was someone else giving me a 'starting point' to work from. When the amount you have to do is so overwhelming, it's easy to give up before you start, pages 15 & 16 really had an almost instant effect. The overall tone of the book is friendly, humorous and makes sense, so I enjoyed most of it!

I always thought it didn't matter too much the way I dressed in track bottoms all the time, because they were (almost always) clean. Since I started dressing in proper trousers, at the beginning it was, where are you going Mammy? or, how come you're tidying up, is someone coming over? In the space of a week however, they are ACTUALLY helping! And that's just managing the survival mode! THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!"

Katrina, Clonmany, Ireland

"Thank you for reading my mind and writing a book that would be so useful for anyone: a mom working in or outside the home, a single person, or a married person without children.  You may just be my saving grace!!!"

Vonda H. Eldridge, North Carolina, USA

"Thankyou so much Yvette, 

Most of what you said in your book I have done in the past or have tried to do in the past but I never get to a stage where it is routine. Reading your book has reinforced why it is important to keep it up and make it routine. I am a single mum of 2 boys and as I have just returned to part time work I am desperate to keep some sort of order in our lives. Your book has spurred me on to not only get organised but to stay organised!"

Again, thankyou so much.

Yours sincerely,"  

Wendy Moorcroft, Qld Australia

"Yvette yes thank you for the great ebook. I absolutely love the format and
it was so easy to read and understand. Being so straight forward and
practical gives me the drive to start being more organised. I really hope to put your advice into practice and feel better about MYSELF and do it for ME!!!!"

Nicole McDonnell, South Western New South Wales, Australia.

"Hello Ivette!
 
I bought your book and I been reading. Its very helpful for me.
I been looking for books like yours, but always found books written by single person, that only mention children for accident. I really need a book written by somebody that is mom like me and can understand me, that have the same needs, and daily situations. Thanks God, for you! You are wonderful!"

Beatriz Lopez,
Channelview, Texas, USA

"Yvette 

I have enjoyed receiving your newsletters and was very pleased with my recent purchase of your e-book. I printed out your book and keep it by my bed and delve into it every so often to reinforce my awareness of what I am aiming for. Your positive spin on things has helped tremendously too. Anyway, I just wanted to say that I thoroughly enjoyed reading your book

With kind regards"

Allison Girdwood, Newmains, UK

"Hi Yvette

Congratulations on your book and your concept!  I stumbled across your website - and I'm really glad I did!  I enjoy your writing style - it flows very easily.  You have wonderful simple ideas that almost anyone can implement.  I'm certainly a satisfied customer

Kindest regards,"

Natalie Evans, Sydney Australia

"I really enjoyed the Organized for Life book.  It was like you were sitting in my house writing about my problems directly - I swear you snuck in here at some point in time and seen my mess!!!  After I got finished with the book I grabbed a pile of papers and started clearing out stuff.  I was doing so good I grabbed another box of papers and went through that.

If felt good to see the progress I made in that space of time and did not make myself feel overwhelmed. Usually I would sit and think about what I should do but then I couldn't figure out where to start so I wouldn't do anything.  I have felt like my time is running away from me and knew that I had to do something and do it now!!!  So far your approach is very much helping me - Thanks from a future organized life in progress :)"

Janice, Little Suamico, WI, USA

"Dear Yvette,

Thank you so much for your wonderful book.  

My life used to be organised, but slowly over the past three years I have become disorganised and my home has become chaotic. I was not as happy as I used to be, but I didn't know how to change - the clutter in my home and having to rush myself and three children (ages 5, 3 and 1) to get anywhere was really taking a toll on my self esteem.

Your book gave me some simple things to work on that is helping me to gradually get back to the person that I want to be.

I really do have more time to enjoy being with my precious children.

Your book is so simply written that I was able to read it in one day and start the process or becoming an organised person immediately. 

Thank you,"

Jessica, Sydney, Australia

"Dear Yvette,

First, I have to tell you that I enjoy your sense of humor and sense of reality. My house is so out of control and has been for a couple of years.  I always blamed it on my work schedule.  It is such a mess that I often ask myself, 'Where do I start?'   Until I read your Ebook, I hadn't started on a task but rather, I had found other things to do that I thought were more important.  The main benefit has been recognizing how my feelings play a role in being disorganized and to start today rather than waiting until everything felt it was the perfect time."

Denise Carmical, Summerville, USA. 

"I thoroughly enjoy your style of writing. Thanks for your help." 

Marlene, Vancouver, WA, Canada

"I have read the book and have really enjoyed it.  I have a shortcut to it on my desktop and use it as reference. Thank you for the book.  I will continue to use it regularly."

Marian, Unionville, TN, USA

"Hi Yvette,

Thank you so much for writing that book.  I can see already that it is
going to give me the tools and guidance I need to help me create the
lifestyle I desire.

Best Regards,"

Diane, Frankfort, IL, U.S.

"Hi Yvette

I am now THOROUGHLY enjoying your book – it is right where I’m at in my life, so thank you!!

Once I downloaded the book it was really fun reading it because I felt like I was ‘kind of’ on track, but with someone ‘on the same page’ as I was.  So … things have already changed a lot, I have a few more areas to gain control of, and then of course the day-to-day maintenance, but I know I’ll get there.  I read the book often – I leave it next to my bed so that I can see it all the time and read bits at bedtime, just to keep me motivated.

Thanks again,

Regards"

BEVERLY, Johannesburg, South Africa

“Dear Yvette,  I have just purchased your ebook and it has been great.  Once again thanks for your wonderful ideas and tips.

Kind Regards”

Jenny Norton, Toowoomba, Queensland, Australia. 

"Dear Yvette

I really found your book most enjoyable. I have a family of 2 kids, 11 & 12 years old, 2 dogs & 3 birds, and quite a hectic career.  What I found most useful is the simplicity of your approach and your emphasis on the feelings. I have started to implement the ideas and it has already made such a difference.
Kind regards"

Adele, Cape Town, South Africa

"Hi Yvette,

I've been searching for a book to tell met the finer details of organizing
your family home - from kids to meal planning etc.  I was not raised in a
family where my mother was actively busy in and around the house and felt
sort of lost when I had to set up my own home and later having kids how to
organize everything.  Its just nice to know that the plain and simple things
that I have done are indeed OK.  Your tips on daily planning also
streamlined my life and that feeling of procrastination from not knowing
if  - what you do is correct so let's rather not do anything or plan anything
in advance- disappeared once I read your book.  Thank you for your
assistance and I'm looking forward to your next book!!!

Also thank you for your monthly e-mail !!

Kind regards"

Mia Richards,  Johannesburg, South Africa

"Hello Yvette,

I would like to thank you for taking the time in writing this book - I am sure it will be of great benefit to others who have purchased it as well. Once again many thanks,"   

Lois Hartl, Merbein South, Australia
 

"Hi Yvette,

Your book seems to talk straight to me.  I feel there is a lot more 'space' in my brain and am far less stressed because I know I'm 'doing something' to make my daily life run smoothly.

Kind regards,

J G, Brisbane, Australia

"Hi Yvette,

I just wanted to tell you how life changing your book has been for me.  I had already spent a fortune on organizing and declutterizing books by the time I found your book. I had even bought a couple of ebooks before yours because they were less expensive but they didn't come anywhere near to providing me with a clear solution for dealing with not only clutter and mess but also housework and when and why you have to do something. I like your direct method that cuts right to what to do, when to do it, and why you do it. I can say this, it was the best $25.00 investment I could have made, because now I can stop buying all those other books, always searching for an answer. And if anybody is interested there is no book like this in the bookstore. The information in your book is unique and for somebody like me priceless! God bless you for taking the time to write this book and helping so many people through it. With your book you have helped me to understand after suffering my whole life with "what do I do next?" Now I actually know what to do next! Thank you again so much for your book.

Sincerely,"

Gerie Dickson, Spartanburg, USA 

"Hi Yvette,

I purchased this book as I am training to become a life coach and I read lots of this kind of material.  As an organised person myself your book struck a very familiar chord with me.  As I said I have read many books on this subject and visited different websites too.  The best thing about your book is its simplicity, there are no complicated routines or fancy paperwork involved, just good basic common sense.  As some people have not been brought up to have these basic skills, it tells them all they need to know in an easy to implement way, as well as perhaps adding new ideas for those who are ok in some areas but not in others.  At a very competitive price it is worth the money, well written, and I will definitely recommend it to the appropriate people.

Kind regards,"

Nicola, UK

“Earlier this year I could not continue work due to depressive illness.  As my wife had to work I had to take up the household duties.  Organized for Life was a real help, as I had not really known what I had to do due to living in a haze in the past.  It helped me to get moving, which made things easier because my family could see that life was not going to fall to pieces with me at home.  Right now I am getting ready to go back to work and considering how I can maintain the good habits that Organized for Life helped instil.”

Terry O'Riain, Australia

As well as having a funny surname, I get all uppity about titles as well, so let's get that off my chest too.

My title, by the way, is Ms.  I'd happily do without one altogether, because I prefer to be addressed by my first name.  If I must use one, it would be nice if I could go and get myself a Phd.  Then I could call myself Dr instead, or Professor.  Wing Commander, Air Commodore, Admiral or General have a nice ring to them too, or I could go with Duchess, Princess, Chairman, Sultan or perhaps Reverend.  Pharaoh, Regina, Lady, Darth, or something beginning with Grand perhaps. 

Auntie is one I can legitimately use, but really only in the company of my nephew.

And of course if someone insists on addressing me formally, I really think they should go to the trouble of actually knowing my surname, and my preferred title, or at least asking it, and not just presuming.

When I first got married I started getting called Mrs.  This was not my choice.  I had always insisted on Ms, and continued to do so.  This was my little stand for equality.  "If someone wants to know whether I am married or single, they don't have an automatic right to know without knowing me or asking me, the same as a man" I argued.  "Making that distinction invites discrimination".  I still believe this today, and still insist upon it, much as it is a drag to do so.

Secretly though, especially when I was first married, I enjoyed the instances of Mrs.  I wore it like a status symbol.  I was a married lady.  Respectable.  Loved.  Belonging.  Grown up.  But I stood by my principals.

In Australia, we don't much go around calling people Sir or Madam or Mr or Ms.  Titles are just something that get printed out on your bills and filled in on forms.  To us, the way Alice says "Mr & Mrs Brady", or the way Daphne says "Dr Crane" is just odd.  Staff tend to be on a first name basis with their employers, especially in a domestic situation like that, which is really quite intimate. 

Googling the word title, it seems it's not the correct word to use for what I'm describing here.  Wikipedia describes Mr, Mrs and Ms as honorifics, quite distinct from titles.  I left it in though, because that is what is says every time I need to fill in a form!

Anyway, just call me Yvette; you're less likely to get an earful.

It's common in many cultures for people to have a surname, last name or family name.  A couple of exceptions that come to mind are Cher and Madonna.  Oh, and the artist now known again as Prince.  Of course I don't know what their accountants put on their tax returns.  There are cultures where the family name comes first rather than last, (like my brother's Chinese name) and other cultures where the names are chosen differently or not used at all.

I have a weird sounding surname.  Actually, it's two weird sounding surnames joined with a hyphen: Langmaid-Buttery.  They're both English surnames, slightly unusual ones, but that's another story.  This article is about why I've chosen to hyphenate them (for the moment at least).

Surnames or family names are not something people tend to be concerned, worried about or obsessed with.  Mine's an issue, and the whole idea of surnames and system of surnames is an issue for me, and something I am obsessed with, and certainly interested in.  I'll tell you why.

It's because I'm a woman (and possibly a bit of a drama queen).

My first surname, the one on my birth certificate, is my father's surname, Langmaid.  That's pretty traditional in my culture, pretty standard.  Some might even see it as a lucky thing, something to be proud of.  Hey, I know who my father is.  He was even married to my mother.

When I first married, I took my husband's surname.  This is also pretty standard, pretty common practice in my culture.  Why do we do it?  Well, in my case, we knew we wanted to have children, and I wanted to have the same surname as my kids.  They call it a family name.  The whole family shares the same surname.  You're the Joneses, the Bradys, the Waltons.  You all live in the same house.  Mum, Dad and the kids.  A family.  And changing your surname from your father's to your husband's is how it's usually done. 

I thought about the issue of surnames when I got married, and talked to my partner about it.  I did have some issues with this system.  It's the woman who has to make the change, where's the family name link on the mother's side - it's all a bit one sided isn't it?  Unfair!  Annoying.  But the name you start life with is part of that system already anyway, isn't it.

Of course, lots of people these days choose not to change their name when they get married.  It might be for professional reasons.  Yes, if it's for professional reasons, you have a good excuse don't you?  You already have an established career where you're known by your existing surname.  You're important.  You're justified. 

Or you can do it just because you don't see why you should change it.  Then you're, well, just brave, or eccentric, or rebellious, or modern, or feminist or whatever.

But what if you want to have kids?  Then you are confronted by another decision to be made, another stand to be made, or another compromise to be made.  And whatever you decide, you must live with the consequences of it, as I well know.

Anyway, I changed my surname.  I took my husband's surname.  I didn't have a better idea.  I rationalised that my surname was my father's anyway.  It was still a man's surname, a husband's surname, a father's surname.

The process of changing your surname when you get married, (in Australia, anyway), is informal and assumed from a legal viewpoint, but also quite involved from a practical one.  There is no need to change your name legally, by deed poll or anything like that.  The fact of being married just gives you the 'right' to use that name, to assume it, to adopt it, if you choose to.

To make the change on your drivers licence, gas bill, health insurance, and literally hundreds of other places, you must provide a copy of your marriage certificate, and often accompany it with a letter, a follow up phone call and so on.  It takes months, if you're particularly organized and diligent.

But hey, we only have to do it once in our lives, right?

Making the decision to take my husband's surname felt like I was making a decision to separate myself from my parents and align myself with my husband as a new family.  It was a show of confidence in my marriage.  A sign of respect for my husband.  A sign of my husband's respect for me.  Something he would give me.  We were a unit.  We were a couple.

We had a child, and put her father's surname on her birth certificate, just as I had on mine.  We were a family.  Even the pets had our family surname.

We were divorced when my daughter was two.  Now what to do about the name thing?  I was a young woman, had only been married a short time, and didn't wish to continue using a surname that now didn't feel like 'mine'.

I know divorced women often do keep their married name.  I'd heard of this, but didn't have much experience with it.  I didn't really have any examples to draw on.  I've heard of it being the case, again, for professional reasons.  You've made 'a name' for yourself in your career under your married name.  You're known.  You're somebody.  You have the 'right' to continue to use it as long as you wish, so why not if it suits you to do so.

But what if you re-marry?  What if you have more children?  What if it really just feels strange and wrong?  And what about your children?

I reverted to my maiden name.  The name I had when I was a maiden.  (A line from a novel called Tirra Lirra by the River by Jessica Anderson).  I filled in all the forms.  I sent off more copies of my marriage certificate (yes, you just do the same thing - the marriage certificate also gives you the 'right' to use your maiden name), I made more phone calls, I went through another period of correction and inconvenience.

My parents divorced soon after this, and my mother changed her surname to her grandmother’s maiden name!  This is just an incidental side thing, nothing to do with my story.  My grandmother had been given this name (Lamont) as a middle name, to keep it in the family. 

So anyway, now my daughter and I had different surnames.  I hated this, but I didn't know what to do about it.  I didn't know that I could have gone to court to have my daughter's surname changed at the time.  Yes, when she was still very young, I would have been likely to be successful with such an application to the court.  I know that now.  But, it was not something I had the confidence to research and pursue at the time, and she kept her father's surname.

So, I would have to repeatedly explain that my name was not Mrs X, but that I was my daughter's mother, both in person and in making corrections on every kind of document and record, from the dentist to the school to the health insurance company and so on. 

I remarried.  My second husband said he didn't think I would want to change my surname.  I had mixed feelings about this.  I suppose he assumed I was a modern woman, that I'd had to go through it before and wouldn't want to again, that I wouldn't want my eldest daughter to be the only one in the family with a different surname.  All of these things were true, and I don't think I would have changed my name to his if he had wanted me to, but on some level, I think I sort of wanted him to want me to have his name.  As a sign of unity, of faith in our marriage, as something he would give me, something about being respectable - who knows what - but it was and is an emotional issue for me, the name thing.  We talked about it a bit, hyphenated names were mentioned but it was agreed they were undesirable, and the discussion did not progress to any other possibilities.

We had a child together and gave our daughter his name.  I didn’t know what else to do.  My eldest daughter had her dad’s name and I hadn’t done anything.  Mine was different anyway.  So even though I was married to the father of my youngest child, neither of my kids had the same name as me or each other.  I hated it.  I didn’t know what to do about it. 

This marriage soon ended too. 

I always worried about it (the name thing - me and both my children all having different surnames) and wished I had money for a lawyer to do something, if only I knew what to do.  Every time I filled in a form at school, the doctor, dentist, swimming, ballet, childcare etc etc, I had to explain that I was their mother, that they were sisters, that our names were different.  I got called by my ex husbands' surnames, the kids got called by each other’s names etc.  I hated it.  I lived with it. 

Never one to be easily discouraged, and determined to be happily married with lots of children, a new man came along, and we decided to have a baby. 

What to name the new baby and what to call myself when we got married?   Feeling emotionally stronger in my new relationship, I decided to do something about this whole surname thing.

First thing, decide what I think would work.  It wouldn't be fun, it wouldn't be pretty, it wouldn't even be original, but I felt I needed to really think it through and come up with some kind of solution.  I worked out the whole thing, including a proposed system for dealing with names for future generations that I think is fair for women.  This is it: 

Hyphenated names.  Yes, you saw that coming, didn't you.  Give the kids BOTH parents’ surnames.  That way they always have a link with both parents and with their siblings.  It’s longer to write, harder for people to remember, and the names are still partly different, but it shows what’s real, and gives that important link to other family members and not just the father. 

To prevent ever longer names over generations, when kids with hyphenated names marry & have kids, they pass down one each, whichever one they choose, but logically the girl passes on her maternal one, the boy his paternal one.  Simple.  Of course this is just my suggestion, kids can do whatever they like when they’re grown up, but I felt I needed to think the thing through and have a proposal.

So there, I'd done it, I'd confronted the fact that I knew it would not be popular, that people would hate it and disagree.  I'd confronted the fact that it had definite drawbacks, but still, it's the best possible thing I've been able to come up with, and the only solution I can think of that's fair and logical.

I knew both ex husbands would oppose it, and wrote them a letter each explaining I wanted to add my surname with a hyphen (before theirs, so theirs stayed last, but which way around wouldn’t have mattered really) to the kids' surnames.  I told them I would be giving the baby a hyphenated name, and also adding my new partner's name to mine with a hyphen when we got married.  I got their rejections back, and put in the court application.  The kids were 11 and 7.  I explained to the kids what I was doing and why, and they were fine with it (I thought).

I did give my son a hyphenated surname, and when I married his father, I did change my name, adding his surname with a hyphen, which is the name I am still using now: Langmaid-Buttery.  My ex-husband's preference would have been that I called myself Mrs Buttery, but he supported me in what I was doing anyway.  Hey, you don't argue with a pregnant woman!

When the trial date finally came up, I was pregnant with my fourth and fifth babies.  I was feeling optimistic about the outcome because of comments the magistrate had made leading up to the trial date.  She commented that my proposal would reflect the reality of the children's lives, and I'd seen the same comment when I'd looked up precedents.  When the day came however, I lost, and it seems this was because of the children's ages.  I'd waited too many years, and they had been living with their father's surnames all that time.  It was a humiliating experience, and when I told my children the outcome, they now said they had not wanted to change their surnames.  The younger one didn't even know what my surname was!  Did they initially say they were OK with the change just to please me, or did they say they didn't want to do it to please their fathers, or both?  Really, it was all just too much for them to be expected to deal with.  If I was going to do it, I should have done it after the first divorce.  I thought I was being brave, but perhaps it was just foolish. 

With hindsight, what I would do now, would be insist on hyphenating all my children's surnames when they were born.  I found out when my youngest were born, when I was reading the material accompanying the birth registration papers, that if there is any disagreement about the surname of a newborn baby, the surname automatically defaults to a hyphenated one!  How about that.

So to change their surnames now before they’re 18, they would each have to convince a psychologist that it is what they want themselves, and I would have to go through the 1 year process again.  Obviously I've let it go now.

I'm now separated and soon to be divorced again, and for now, I think I'll be keeping my hyphenated name.  I don’t know what I’ll do if I ever get married again, but for the moment I want to enjoy having the same surname as three of my children.

Now that I am having the experience for the first time of having the same surname as three of my children, I am enjoying it!  Yes, it really does make a difference to me. 

What's it like having a hyphenated surname?

Yes, it has definite disadvantages. 

Since having the hyphenated surname, I find people often choose to ignore it, even when it’s written down in front of them, or I’ve just told it to them, and will use one or the other. 

I want to have some standard ways of dealing with this situation.  Perhaps saying something like “do you want me to spell it again for you?” or “you seem to be having trouble pronouncing my surname”.  I want it to embarrass them rather than me, make it their problem, and force them to use or write it correctly.  I know this is silly, and I need to be more creative and less catty in looking for solutions.  People are confused by it - it's not their fault.

What to do about my surname now?

Well, for one thing, you'll notice I didn't include my surname in the domain name of this blog.  Hopefully there's no-one else out there called Yvette 'writing'. 

Options I've considered:-

- Leave it as it is.  Advantages: Have same surname as my three youngest children, don't have to change everything again, show solidarity with my three youngest children in having a hyphenated surname, showing that I really believe in the hyphenated thing.  Disadvantages: The disadvantages of having a hyphenated surname, continuing to use the surname of my ex-husband, what if I get re-married. 

- Leave it as it is, and if I do ever re-marry, then change the Buttery part to my new husband's surname.  Advantages: Shows support and belief in the hyphenated thing, I continue to share part of my surname with my three youngest children, I get to also share my new husband's surname, showing both my support of him and his of me.  Disadvantages:  Have to go through another name change if I get married again, including how it affects my business, given that I've started my little business using my current name.

- Revert to my maiden name.  Advantages: Have a surname partially still in common with my three youngest children, easier to write and have people use it correctly.  Disadvantages: Not showing support for the hyphenated thing, having to change it again, then possibly wanting to change it again if I re-marry.

- Keep a hyphenated surname, but make it Lamont-Langmaid, that is, both my own parents' surnames.  Advantages: My surname would remain partially in common with my youngest children, I wouldn't necessarily have to change it again if I got married, I'd be showing my belief in the hyphenated name thing, I'd be supporting my mother in her choice of surname.  Disadvantages:  Having to change my name again now, it might feel funny having Lamont as a surname when I've never had it before, and it would make the decision more difficult about whether to change my name again if I re-married. 

- Drop the surname altogether, by deed poll, and just be Yvette, like Cher or Madonna or Prince.  Advantages:  Makes a bold statement, easy to write and remember.  Disadvantages:  Makes a bold statement, would have to change it legally as well as the usual way, would have to constantly explain it, and would not show support for the hyphenated thing.

- Use the surnames of all past and future husbands as well as my maiden name, and why not throw in my mother's surname as well.  Advantages: Makes a bold statement, I would have a surname in common with all my children and with my future husband and with both my parents, sticks it to the system.  Disadvantages: Having to make the change legally, is it possible, and the problem of filling in forms, explaining it to people, and the name simply not fitting in the available spaces on most data bases.

Ok, go ahead and have a good laugh, call me an obsessed nutcase, but this is really what goes through my head, and surely somebody else out there can relate to this.  If nothing else, my daughters might read this one day when they're grown up and understand me better, or consider the issue carefully themselves before they marry and have children of their own.

Putting one's writing 'out there' for anyone to see is something that's a bit scary.  It leaves one open to criticism and judgement.  But, it's something anyone who creates anything, in any form, just has to come to terms with.  If we all sat around wondering if we were good enough to express our thoughts publicly, how would anything ever get done?  If we never take any risks, how do we grow and learn?  

Still, it's a scary thing to do.  But in any media, whether it's the internet, print media, TV or radio, there's such a lot of low quality content out there, that it's easy to think "I can do better than that".  And of course, that's the beauty of blogging - there is often no publisher to please, so the quality of the content gets better.

I was watching a re-run of Parkinson the other night, and was interested in Ben Elton's comments about personal privacy.  He'd written a new novel based on a TV show called the X-factor (I haven't seen it, but I gather is was a talent contest).  He was concerned about the desire for fame at any cost, particularly among young people.  Reference was made of course to Jerry Springer, and to a British politician who apparently damaged his career by expressing his opinions too freely.

Being about to embark on a blog, and feeling a bit nervous about it, this got me thinking about what and how much it is appropriate or wise to reveal about oneself in public.  We're always hearing about people being misquoted or quoted out of context in the media, and seeing people 'stick their foot in it' on TV and so forth, and being careful to avoid any potential future embarrassment would seem like a good idea.

On the other hand, the things people say and write that I find most interesting to hear or read myself, have a strong personal element to them.  Same with biographies - the more personal and revealing they are, the more interesting. 

The massive phenomenon that is MySpace brings up this issue also.  As a parent of a teenager, I read with interest the MySpace recommendations on safety.  Kids are warned not to say or display anything which might embarrass them in the future.

The other obvious thing that comes to mind is that I need to be considerate of people who know me or have known me personally, and how anything I say publicly can have an effect on them.  Do unto others and so on.

Writing as I tend to speak, in a fairly open and 'heart on sleeve' kind of way, might well expose my weaknesses, ignorance, prejudices, narcisism, discomforts and so on, but is that such a bad thing?  Any attempt at hiding my feelings is doomed to failure anyway; it's just not something I've ever successfully done.  And why not just be myself.  It's simpler and easier that way, and I feel it's giving something of myself and inviting others to also be more open. 

So, this blog will not be too guarded or contrived, but I will make the utmost effort to be considerate of others and to maintain a certain level of dignity.  Hopefully over time, I will see my writing skills improve immensely, without being ashamed of any of my earlier work.