| Developing Routines |
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| Monday, 29 June 2009 | |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
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As part of my
continuous quest to get/keep my life on track, I’m constantly trying to
improve/develop my routines.
The more
ingeniously we construct our routines the better able we are to follow
them. The key to achieving what we want
in life and living the kind of life we want is making the right routines and
following them.
Following a
routine can be difficult to achieve at first, but is easily achieved by making
it a habit. The tricky part is making a
routine that is workable in the first place.
Often it happens that if you analyse the routine you are expecting of
yourself, you will find it full of faults and tricky places that are asking to
go wrong.
A good routine
has a lot it needs to provide. The first
thing is balance. We all need a balance
of the different parts of our lives included in our daily and weekly
routines. The things we need to include
are:
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Sleep
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Work
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Eating
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Movement
- exercise
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Family
time
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Relaxation
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Social
time
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Personal
goals
Sleeping and
working take up two thirds of our lives, unless we are lucky enough to not need
to work full time hours to support our financial needs. So we have one third of our lives left as
discretionary time for our families, personal goals, health and relaxation.
If you stay home
to care for your children, the different aspects of your life will be more
combined and overlapping than they would be if you had a separate working
life. There are advantages and
disadvantages to this less compartmentalised lifestyle. It allows you greater flexibility in some
ways, but flexibility doesn’t always assist us in maintaining a routine.
I am in this
position myself, having young children at home, and have always found it easier
to meet obligations to others such as employers than to follow my own
orders. It’s because of this that I am
so interested in developing good routines as a solution to achieving what we
want.
A routine allows
habits to develop. Habits are easy, and
make things happen without much effort or thought. Doing things automatically without having to
think about it very much is much easier than having to re-think our actions
every day and tackle things as they come up.
We need to get
the bigger things into place first. Even
settling on your sleeping hours isn’t always straight forward, but it’s
important to make a firm decision about it and stick to it. Your sleep patterns will adapt to follow your
routine – you needn’t be a slave to them.
The bigger things
can be based on location. How many
different places do you tend to be each day and each week? At work, at home, at the shops, at the gym,
at a friends place, out and about, at your kids school or kinder. Some of these are set and some are flexible,
so get those into place first. Should
you combine going to the gym with doing your grocery shopping as one
outing? If so, does it work better to go
to the gym first?
Parts of your
daily routine may change based upon your weekly routine, but can still be done
consistently, if perhaps at a different time of day. Once the big ones are in place, like
sleeping, working away from home, errands and commitments away from home like
driving your kids around or attending classes – then the smaller details of routines
can be fitted in. I find this the most
difficult part.
The smaller
routines tend to be based around structuring my work time and then the many and
various things I am trying to keep up with at home, like spending time with my
kids, running the house, keeping up with my personal stuff like daily reading,
beauty routines and hobbies.
Achieving goals
requires that you spend regular well planned time on the activities necessary
to them, and that time must be allocated as part of your routine. Planning time is, I believe, essential to
every routine, from preparing a meal plan before writing your grocery list, to
detailing the steps necessary for achieving a goal.
Using a beauty
routine as an example, most things can be grouped with the daily shower, such
as exfoliating, hair removal, moisturizing, deep cleansing, hair treatments,
make up and so on. However, it may be
necessary to make a separate time during the week for doing our nails – a time
when we can be uninterrupted for long enough for polish to dry, and not need to
use our hands to do anything which might smudge our hard work.
Using work as an
example, there are daily tasks like answering emails, returning and making
phone calls, correspondence, as well as the guts of it – creating and selling a
product, providing a service, or whatever it is that we do. There may also be record keeping, report
writing, statistical analysis (I’m boring myself sleepy just thinking about
it…) All these things need to be
balanced and included in our routine, and keeping up with a good routine will
ensure that all the separate but essential parts of our job are completed.
Having a routine
allows us to put limits on the amount of time we spend on each particular
activity. Beauty sessions in the
bathroom, or answering emails, can extend and extend and encroach on time
allocated to other activities. If we
have a set amount of time to spend on something, and we stick with that, then
as we make it habitual, we will learn to either do these things faster and more
efficiently, or make some prioritising decisions about how much time is
reasonable to spend each day and each week.
The act of simply
listing all our daily and weekly activities can be quite confronting. When we do this we are often faced with the
fact that there simply are not enough hours in the day, or that we are spending
way too long on some things to the detriment of others.
But we can’t make
a constructive decision about anything unless we have all the information in
front of us. I mean ALL the
information. It’s ok, in fact essential
that we include things we enjoy doing and relaxation time or time to do nothing,
as well as things we’ve always felt we SHOULD do but never seem to get around
to or keep up consistently.
If you’re the
kind of person who has trouble doing things in a particular order because of
that rebelliousness against order some of us feel at times, checklists can
help. If some things must be done daily,
at some time during the day, but it doesn’t matter when exactly, we can just do
them randomly and tick them off the list, as long as we manage to fit them
in.
They will still
tend to need to conform to some kind of loose timeframe though, such as whether
they are done at work or at home or out, or in the morning or afternoon or
evening. There’s also no getting away
from the fact that many things depend on other things needing to be done first –
we can’t hang up the washing before we’ve washed it, we need to shower after
exercising and before presenting ourselves in public, we need to write an
article before we can publish it.
Routines are ever
evolving, and we can’t change all our habits at once, but we do need to have a
basic place to start and work from.
A good basic time
allocation I use is the time from when school and kinder finish to when the
children go to bed. This is family time
and includes our evening meal, and is not a good time to be trying to do
anything which requires concentration.
This is the time for me to be as available to the children as I possibly
can.
A post-dinner
family clean up time incorporated here is a very beneficial thing to get
going. If you can build up a habit of
consistently fully clearing and cleaning the table and kitchen, doing the
dishes, and a general quick tidy up before everyone relaxes for the evening,
the whole family will benefit, enjoying the order, feeling a sense of calm and
pride.
You can build on
this over a period of time, including getting all washing to the laundry and
preparing clothes and bags for the next day.
Wow, imagine that – waking up in the morning to find the house clean and
everything ready for you! Is it easier
to go to the gym if your gym bag is already packed with a change of clothes,
clean towel and toiletries, and your clean exercise clothes are already laid
out? Yes! It is.
The time leading
up to your own bedtime can be a good time to include planning, reflecting
(thinking about how you’re going with things), meditation or prayer, personal grooming or beauty tasks and
relaxing with music or a movie or favourite TV show or reading material. Yes, a diverse bunch of things thrown
together, but these things tend to suit that time of day, or can only be fitted
in there.
How are your routines looking? Can you allocate some time this week to have
a look at them and see what tweaks you can make? Can you incorporate regular daily and weekly
planning time into your routine?
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